Love the blog. I'm straight married guy who loves to receive massage. I have had several massage therapists who let me go nude, but I had to quit seeing 2 of them because I wanted to ask for more and knew they wouldn't.
How can I tell whether to ask for that special 90 seconds? I'm kind of a shy-nice guy type who is usually pretty good at signals but I don't want to get thrown out either. I know there probably isn't any answer to my question. I really want to find a therapist who is legit (like you), but has clients who they can trust (me).
I'm kinda wishing you were in my state--even though I'm straight.
- Steven
Thanks Steven for reading and for the question.
A therapist's biggest fear is that you are cop, trying to trap them. You have to let them know that this is not the case. There are several signs that I look for. You have already answered one, if an option, no draping. This is a sign they may want more. Verbalize your appreciation, light oohs and ahs and low moans are good signs. Erections are helpful to let me know. Keeping your legs spread as much as possible. Physical contact is the other. If they are close to the table, let your hand touch their leg and leave it there (don't
grab, that's rude). Some guys will say to me "if you want to get more comfortable, feel free" as a way of asking if I will work nude. Lightly humping the table while laying on your front is a big hint, try to do this as subtly as possible.
Most therapists I know who do both, very rarely do erotic work on a first appointment, cops don't bother coming back if there was no hanky panky the first time.
Tip well, from the first visit, therapists are much more likely to bend the rules for clients they like and who treat them well.
Start a conversation about erotic massage... "I suppose you get a lot of guys asking for a happy ending? Does that bother you?" Don't say this on your first appointment, sounds like a set up. Have a conversation after the first appointment. Perhaps by email, or phone. Thank the masseur for your first massage, how much you enjoyed it, how much you look forward to returning. Compliment him on his touch, how it made you feel. How you wish you had skills like his so you could make him feel as good he made you feel. Compliment the surroundings, the music, the scents (a good therapist puts a lot of thought and time into all of these and loves it when it gets noticed). Compliment his strength and physique. These are all ways to get on his good side, and lets him know you may be interested in more.
Let me know if this helps - Jack
PS: I wrote the following in one of my posts:
So how do you find out if your therapist does a little extra? First off, realize that unless they advertise in an erotic section of advertising, they probably won’t say much over the phone or on email, remember, doing erotic or even sensual massage is illegal almost everywhere. Not only is there the police to worry about, but the local massage licensing board can revoke one’s license and levy some very heavy fines. So, starting with ad, there are some key words used in the trade, such as draping optional (where allowed by law), anytime a therapist only works on one gender, the word “release”, in some places in the country “full body”, in others it may be “completely satisfied”, if the ad gives the stats of the provider or uses terms to define their looks such as handsome, sexy, or fit. You get the idea. These are terms used to excite the customer into believing that this massage provides a little extra. They do not guarantee something extra. I know many workers who will only do sensual or erotic work on clients they find attractive but still use these terms to boost their client list, however, they are still a good indication that an erotic or sensual massage is at least a possibility. An ad that show a half naked photo of the therapist is also a good indication, but again, not fool proof.
The price is also an indication, though not always. Typically, if a therapist is charging 20% above the average going rate, they probably offer something extra, especially if they work out of their home. Spas are usually above average market price but almost never offer any extras. The most expensive are the rub and tug people who do not really massage but just use it as a front for prostitution clients.
Recommendations are always good way to go. Ask around anonymously on the web; be specific about what you want. Get more than one response. The problem with the web is that it is a great place for petty people to take out their aggressions. Say for example they wanted an erotic massage from someone and did not get it, when they see someone asking for an erotic massage, they may use it as an opportunity to send a pervert to them, sad but true.
When you talk to them on the phone, do they emphasize non-sexual? Do they talk on about medical terms and fancy techniques? These are probably truly non sexual.
Some styles that would indicate something more would be Tantric or Body Electric or in some cases Esalon. If prostate massage is offered or full body scrubs, these could also be signs that extra are being done.
Ask if draping is optional, if it is, the odds that it is a sensual or erotic massage go up.
If you are on the table, be somewhat vocal when touched in a way that you like and when you are touched where you like. If the masseur is close enough to the table that your hand is touching their leg, don't
grab of poke or dig but ever so gently stroke lightly with a finger. Spreading your legs as far apart as possible is a good sign as well as arching the back slightly. Keep it all coming from a place of
relaxation and enjoyment.
Personally, I believe the best approach is not to worry about it. Assume that the massage is not going to be sensual or erotic and just be pleasantly surprised if it is.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
OK, a momentary reality check
Yes, I make my living doing massage with men and about 50% of the time I include sensual work. Sometimes, I let them play with me as well. Most people in my profession do. So here is a little reality check for clients.
If you are going to a masseur who plays with you during the massage, he probably does it with at least 50% of his clients, probably does it at least once a day or more. You are not the special one. No matter how special he makes you feel (that is part of his job). You need to be OK with that. Each will have their own limits, some hate kissing, some will not cum with their clients, some will always remain clothed, some do not like mutual touch. He may have different limits with different clients, most are human and have likes and dislikes and you may not be his type at all, most will do as much as they can but everyone has there limits.
Here is one thing that is true for almost all of them. We do what we do for money. We may like our jobs, some more than others, but it is a job. Most will never date a client, this will cost us said client. Most will not have outside hook-ups for sex with their clients, this is another way to loose a paying client. If you think that you are different than the others we deal with, you may well be, but we can’t take that chance. It amazes me how often I get asked to go on a date, even after I have mentioned my partner. I am also constantly asked to have random hook-ups with my clients. I explain my rules, the why’s and the wherefore’s and still, they say it will be different with them.
Clients have done computer checks to find out if I have any sex ads out there. I have clients who have compared notes with other clients of mine to find out what I have done with them during our sessions. When I discover that a client is that obsessed, I will drop them as a client, usually with an explanation.
Just because a bodyworker gets an erection while working, does not mean that he is really turned by you. Again, this is a part of the job. They may have taken a little blue pill, watched a lot of porn before you arrived and may be thinking about doing it with Wolverine. Here is a good rule of thumb, if the bodyworker is far more attractive than you, he is probably thinking about someone else. Do not assume he wants to have sex with you. Sorry to ruin the fantasy.
Here is another little reality check; I don’t mind chatting with you during our session as long as the focus stays on you. I will answer the occasional questions about my private life, but it is my private life and what I share is up to me. Also, when we talk, it should be on the clock, if you come in and talk to me for 15 minutes before the session starts, it should come off your time… if it doesn’t you should tip well. The same goes for after your session is over, don’t expect to hang out for a half an hour or more after your session is over, my time is worth something, I don’t wish to be rude but you got to go. To take this one step further, I really don’t need to receive numerous emails, phone messages, texts, etc. telling me about how your life is going. I understand that you view me as your friend, and it’s not that you are not a nice person, but you are my client. Even though we may have discussed your sexual life and your various relationships in the course of a session, it was within the context of the session, I am not a 24 hour emotional therapist. I am happy that you feel so comfortable with me, but again, remember that we have a client / bodywork therapist relationship where I get paid for my time. I may be able to help you and listen to your issues, but save them for when we are together.
Oh, kissing on the cheek is usually fine, full open mouth kissing may not be so. To many men, this is way more intimate than touching each other's dicks or a prostate massage.
Thank you for listening and treat your therapist well.
If you are going to a masseur who plays with you during the massage, he probably does it with at least 50% of his clients, probably does it at least once a day or more. You are not the special one. No matter how special he makes you feel (that is part of his job). You need to be OK with that. Each will have their own limits, some hate kissing, some will not cum with their clients, some will always remain clothed, some do not like mutual touch. He may have different limits with different clients, most are human and have likes and dislikes and you may not be his type at all, most will do as much as they can but everyone has there limits.
Here is one thing that is true for almost all of them. We do what we do for money. We may like our jobs, some more than others, but it is a job. Most will never date a client, this will cost us said client. Most will not have outside hook-ups for sex with their clients, this is another way to loose a paying client. If you think that you are different than the others we deal with, you may well be, but we can’t take that chance. It amazes me how often I get asked to go on a date, even after I have mentioned my partner. I am also constantly asked to have random hook-ups with my clients. I explain my rules, the why’s and the wherefore’s and still, they say it will be different with them.
Clients have done computer checks to find out if I have any sex ads out there. I have clients who have compared notes with other clients of mine to find out what I have done with them during our sessions. When I discover that a client is that obsessed, I will drop them as a client, usually with an explanation.
Just because a bodyworker gets an erection while working, does not mean that he is really turned by you. Again, this is a part of the job. They may have taken a little blue pill, watched a lot of porn before you arrived and may be thinking about doing it with Wolverine. Here is a good rule of thumb, if the bodyworker is far more attractive than you, he is probably thinking about someone else. Do not assume he wants to have sex with you. Sorry to ruin the fantasy.
Here is another little reality check; I don’t mind chatting with you during our session as long as the focus stays on you. I will answer the occasional questions about my private life, but it is my private life and what I share is up to me. Also, when we talk, it should be on the clock, if you come in and talk to me for 15 minutes before the session starts, it should come off your time… if it doesn’t you should tip well. The same goes for after your session is over, don’t expect to hang out for a half an hour or more after your session is over, my time is worth something, I don’t wish to be rude but you got to go. To take this one step further, I really don’t need to receive numerous emails, phone messages, texts, etc. telling me about how your life is going. I understand that you view me as your friend, and it’s not that you are not a nice person, but you are my client. Even though we may have discussed your sexual life and your various relationships in the course of a session, it was within the context of the session, I am not a 24 hour emotional therapist. I am happy that you feel so comfortable with me, but again, remember that we have a client / bodywork therapist relationship where I get paid for my time. I may be able to help you and listen to your issues, but save them for when we are together.
Oh, kissing on the cheek is usually fine, full open mouth kissing may not be so. To many men, this is way more intimate than touching each other's dicks or a prostate massage.
Thank you for listening and treat your therapist well.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
The fine Italian Man
One of my newest clients is a fine looking Italian man, really from Italy. English is his second language, but he speaks it fairly well. The first thing that makes him stand out is his clothing. He wears only Italian clothes and the cut is remarkable, very fitted and making him look quite slim. I was actually surprised when he undressed and he was not stick thin but rather well built and with a bit of meat on his bones.
He found me on line and had asked a lot of questions about what kind of massage I do and letting me know that he was not American and was very open minded. Well of course we all know what that means. He did not wait to get undressed but started disrobing immediately. I explained the how I wanted him on the table and that there was draping available if he wanted it and excused my self to wash my hands while he finished stripping. When I returned the towel I had left for him to cover himself was tossed aside and he was lying face down on the table. His legs have a soft covering of dark hair over his slightly olive colored skin running up to cover his beautiful bubble butt. His back has very little hair but the hair is thick again on his arms. He had a head of thick dark hair, ever so slightly sprinkled with gray at the temples.
He talked a lot. Again about how he was from Italy and very open minded. Told me he had a wife that he worked here on behalf of his government in Italy (I was then realizing why prostitutes make good spies). He had not given me his real name having already referred to himself by two different names. He was being very respectful, not grabby at all, I appreciate that. As I near his bubble butt he begins to grind the table lightly and wave his ass in the air. I “accidently” let a finger “slip” between those plump cheeks and he shivers slightly. It is time for him to turn over and he is half hard. His hand immediately goes to his dick and plays with it, not aggressively, but rather a constant fondling. He asks me if it bothers me. I reply no and continue with my work. He talks a lot about nudity and how prudish American society is and what would it matter with two consenting adults. I have had a raging boner for this guy for most of the massage, a fact that he of course noticed. I disrobe and he starts complimenting me on my physique and my dick.
If you have ever read my blog before you know that I have about 6 inches of cock, kind of on the narrow side. Great for fucking since most everyone can take it and it does not intimidate too many guys. Still, not what is considered “stunning” in the gay world since it is not huge and on my 6’ frame it can look even a bit smaller, so I take the compliments on my dick with a grain of salt. A client looking for sex will say almost anything.
His dick is quite nice, probably about 6.5 to 7 and thick, though he seems to have some difficulty in keeping it fully erect, the reason I assume he is constantly playing with it. I compliment him on his equipment and he answers with a very sincere sounding “You don’t think it’s ugly?” I tell him of course not, it’s a good sized piece of meat. “Yes” he says “but I’m not cut. Most guys think it’s hideous!” I tell him he obviously has not been playing with the right guys. While it is true most men in the States are circumcised, that just means a lot of them have a healthy fascination with those that are not.
I continue with the massage, working his chest and abs, he still playing with his dick, occasionally reaching over to stroke mine. I replace his hand with mine and start my magic, but after just a few moments I hear the familiar “I don’t want to cum, I want to wait.” He is new so I won’t bother with trying to explain how this is the best time in the massage to cum but rather I nod and release his penis and continue with the massage. Through the rest of my work on his legs and arms and stretching and scalp, neck and face work he is still playing with his dick and occasionally reaching for mine. As I finish my work I once more replace his hand with mine and after a couple of strokes he again tells me “No, I want to wait, it is the anticipation that is the best part.” I explain that the time is up and it’s now or never and he states “I am good, next time.” OK, what ever. We get dressed and he pays (no tip… Europeans) and goes on his way.
His next visit is about 3 weeks later. It all follows about the same routine. At the normal ¾ mark I offer my hand to replace his and again after a few strokes he says “that he wants to wait.” This time I do explain that if he wants an orgasm during his massage, this is really the best time for all over body health, and he still wants to wait. So the massage ends, we are both naked and he asks if I have time to play. I explain that is something that doesn’t really happen. Not that I don’t find him attractive, I do, but I am working. I do offer to give him a hand, he refuses. He asks to taste my dick. OK, fine, but understand that I won’t cum. I’m thinking that he is going to jack off with my dick in his mouth (this is what a lot of guys really seem to like). However, he literally just tastes my dick and asks again “are you sure you can’t play?” Yes, I am sure. He gets dressed and leaves, seemingly disappointed. I also believe this will be the last time I see him.
Wrong. About 5 weeks later he has made another appointment. He seems just a nervous as his first. I don’t try to do more than take the occasional fondle of his cock. I have never and still don’t try a prostate massage, really nothing more than an external rosebud massage on his anus. I don’t try to relieve at the ¾ mark. He still fondles his cock non stop and still fondles mine occasionally. At the end of the massage, I ask if he would like to cum. “Only if you do.” I reply that I would like to see him cum. He says “No, only if you cum as well.” OK, I still find this guy sexy as hell and I have had a hard on for the last 90 minutes so I say what the hell! He sits up and plays with my cock intently, I stroke his lightly, he pauses, “Maybe I shouldn’t I may have to perform tonight.” You can’t do it twice in one day? It’s early yet. “I can cum twice! Of course I can!” He starts to stroke me again and I with him. Within 30 seconds he exclaims “No! Stop! Oh shit, I’m cumming!” He was barely hard! No wonder he didn’t want me to play with him much, he has a hair trigger. “I wanted to see you cum.” Just as well, I would have been breaking several of my own rules. I clean us off and we get dressed. He pays and leaves, this time leaving a $20 tip… about time.
He found me on line and had asked a lot of questions about what kind of massage I do and letting me know that he was not American and was very open minded. Well of course we all know what that means. He did not wait to get undressed but started disrobing immediately. I explained the how I wanted him on the table and that there was draping available if he wanted it and excused my self to wash my hands while he finished stripping. When I returned the towel I had left for him to cover himself was tossed aside and he was lying face down on the table. His legs have a soft covering of dark hair over his slightly olive colored skin running up to cover his beautiful bubble butt. His back has very little hair but the hair is thick again on his arms. He had a head of thick dark hair, ever so slightly sprinkled with gray at the temples.
He talked a lot. Again about how he was from Italy and very open minded. Told me he had a wife that he worked here on behalf of his government in Italy (I was then realizing why prostitutes make good spies). He had not given me his real name having already referred to himself by two different names. He was being very respectful, not grabby at all, I appreciate that. As I near his bubble butt he begins to grind the table lightly and wave his ass in the air. I “accidently” let a finger “slip” between those plump cheeks and he shivers slightly. It is time for him to turn over and he is half hard. His hand immediately goes to his dick and plays with it, not aggressively, but rather a constant fondling. He asks me if it bothers me. I reply no and continue with my work. He talks a lot about nudity and how prudish American society is and what would it matter with two consenting adults. I have had a raging boner for this guy for most of the massage, a fact that he of course noticed. I disrobe and he starts complimenting me on my physique and my dick.
If you have ever read my blog before you know that I have about 6 inches of cock, kind of on the narrow side. Great for fucking since most everyone can take it and it does not intimidate too many guys. Still, not what is considered “stunning” in the gay world since it is not huge and on my 6’ frame it can look even a bit smaller, so I take the compliments on my dick with a grain of salt. A client looking for sex will say almost anything.
His dick is quite nice, probably about 6.5 to 7 and thick, though he seems to have some difficulty in keeping it fully erect, the reason I assume he is constantly playing with it. I compliment him on his equipment and he answers with a very sincere sounding “You don’t think it’s ugly?” I tell him of course not, it’s a good sized piece of meat. “Yes” he says “but I’m not cut. Most guys think it’s hideous!” I tell him he obviously has not been playing with the right guys. While it is true most men in the States are circumcised, that just means a lot of them have a healthy fascination with those that are not.
I continue with the massage, working his chest and abs, he still playing with his dick, occasionally reaching over to stroke mine. I replace his hand with mine and start my magic, but after just a few moments I hear the familiar “I don’t want to cum, I want to wait.” He is new so I won’t bother with trying to explain how this is the best time in the massage to cum but rather I nod and release his penis and continue with the massage. Through the rest of my work on his legs and arms and stretching and scalp, neck and face work he is still playing with his dick and occasionally reaching for mine. As I finish my work I once more replace his hand with mine and after a couple of strokes he again tells me “No, I want to wait, it is the anticipation that is the best part.” I explain that the time is up and it’s now or never and he states “I am good, next time.” OK, what ever. We get dressed and he pays (no tip… Europeans) and goes on his way.
His next visit is about 3 weeks later. It all follows about the same routine. At the normal ¾ mark I offer my hand to replace his and again after a few strokes he says “that he wants to wait.” This time I do explain that if he wants an orgasm during his massage, this is really the best time for all over body health, and he still wants to wait. So the massage ends, we are both naked and he asks if I have time to play. I explain that is something that doesn’t really happen. Not that I don’t find him attractive, I do, but I am working. I do offer to give him a hand, he refuses. He asks to taste my dick. OK, fine, but understand that I won’t cum. I’m thinking that he is going to jack off with my dick in his mouth (this is what a lot of guys really seem to like). However, he literally just tastes my dick and asks again “are you sure you can’t play?” Yes, I am sure. He gets dressed and leaves, seemingly disappointed. I also believe this will be the last time I see him.
Wrong. About 5 weeks later he has made another appointment. He seems just a nervous as his first. I don’t try to do more than take the occasional fondle of his cock. I have never and still don’t try a prostate massage, really nothing more than an external rosebud massage on his anus. I don’t try to relieve at the ¾ mark. He still fondles his cock non stop and still fondles mine occasionally. At the end of the massage, I ask if he would like to cum. “Only if you do.” I reply that I would like to see him cum. He says “No, only if you cum as well.” OK, I still find this guy sexy as hell and I have had a hard on for the last 90 minutes so I say what the hell! He sits up and plays with my cock intently, I stroke his lightly, he pauses, “Maybe I shouldn’t I may have to perform tonight.” You can’t do it twice in one day? It’s early yet. “I can cum twice! Of course I can!” He starts to stroke me again and I with him. Within 30 seconds he exclaims “No! Stop! Oh shit, I’m cumming!” He was barely hard! No wonder he didn’t want me to play with him much, he has a hair trigger. “I wanted to see you cum.” Just as well, I would have been breaking several of my own rules. I clean us off and we get dressed. He pays and leaves, this time leaving a $20 tip… about time.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
A response from a reader....
Dear Readers,
I received the following via email and am now sharing with the world... with permission. I am looking for others feedback on what I said and what the reader says.....
Hi Jack:
I had been in touch with you previously, commenting on some of your previous musings. I feel I want to share my observations "from on the table" regarding your clients "dilemma" about you blowing your load with him...
I am a gay 40 year old guy who happens to have a mild-ish case of cerebral palsy. To get the "picture" just picture the way Charlie Chaplin used to walk - I do it in reverse I turn my toes in....
Now in my 40 years I have done it all...I lived in Germany, CA, NYC and now London. I have tried pretty much everything I can think of to meet guys (and eventually get laid in the process), bars, clubs, gay community centers, gay groups. I even attended a gay dating workshop in New York. I'm telling you all this not to have a whine but to "set the scene" as it were and to help you understand we are not talking "dry spell" here, more like Mojave Desert.
Now I do have a couple of gay friends, unfortunately none of them think of me as a "sex object" (Somebody please objectify me already! I want to unleash my inner sex kitten!) I never manage to get dinner and a movie followed by blow jobs, just dinner and a movie...and I like both...BUT...
I always have had friends who are bodyworkers or escorts. As one of them explained to me recently "Once you have 3 blokes piss on you for money, a little CP is not that big a deal."
My escort friends have actually dissuaded me from hiring an escort but suggested bodywork instead. In their estimation, and my limited escort experience, escorts and bodyworkers are almost diametrically opposed: escorts will try and get the client off as quickly and efficiently as possible, whereas a really good bodyworker will postpone the release to the almost last possible moment.
My advice to anyone looking for a nice way to get off is to find a really nice bodyworker and stick with them! The good ones are hard to find!
Since a good bodyworker knows the male body and understands the power of touch he is oftentimes far more creative sexually/erotically, since focusing strictly on fucking or getting fucked sort of messes up the foreplay a bit, whereas bodywork is all foreplay with just enough hardcore action to drain your balls. There is something filthy yet almost romantic about a skilled man milking and worshipping your cock and encouraging you to spunk.
HOWEVER...Since I have had limited opportunities for mutual pleasuring and mutual orgasms, a bodyworker such as yourself cumming all over my face or in my mouth is heavenly! For whatever reason I don't get much of that out there in the wild, and so to feel I am good enough/hot enough/whatever enough to warrant someone spunking with me is really hot! I don't think I have major self esteem issues. I think I'm (pretty) great, but to get someone else to agree with me to an extent that he'll let me taste his cum seems to be a bit of an issue...
I shared my thoughts with you in the hope that if you cum across - pardon the pun- a really nice, somehow deserving, guy who is gagging for a nice creamy load from you, just make his day and pump one out all over him....I understand how that can subtly change the balance of power, but if you got some nice bloke gagging for it, just think of me and blow your load for him....
I decided to email you rather than comment on your post, so that I could give you my contact details so you don't think I am some kind of cyber weirdo... I even included a pic.... you are welcome to repost some of this if you like...just no contact info please....
So avid readers.... any thoughts?
I received the following via email and am now sharing with the world... with permission. I am looking for others feedback on what I said and what the reader says.....
Hi Jack:
I had been in touch with you previously, commenting on some of your previous musings. I feel I want to share my observations "from on the table" regarding your clients "dilemma" about you blowing your load with him...
I am a gay 40 year old guy who happens to have a mild-ish case of cerebral palsy. To get the "picture" just picture the way Charlie Chaplin used to walk - I do it in reverse I turn my toes in....
Now in my 40 years I have done it all...I lived in Germany, CA, NYC and now London. I have tried pretty much everything I can think of to meet guys (and eventually get laid in the process), bars, clubs, gay community centers, gay groups. I even attended a gay dating workshop in New York. I'm telling you all this not to have a whine but to "set the scene" as it were and to help you understand we are not talking "dry spell" here, more like Mojave Desert.
Now I do have a couple of gay friends, unfortunately none of them think of me as a "sex object" (Somebody please objectify me already! I want to unleash my inner sex kitten!) I never manage to get dinner and a movie followed by blow jobs, just dinner and a movie...and I like both...BUT...
I always have had friends who are bodyworkers or escorts. As one of them explained to me recently "Once you have 3 blokes piss on you for money, a little CP is not that big a deal."
My escort friends have actually dissuaded me from hiring an escort but suggested bodywork instead. In their estimation, and my limited escort experience, escorts and bodyworkers are almost diametrically opposed: escorts will try and get the client off as quickly and efficiently as possible, whereas a really good bodyworker will postpone the release to the almost last possible moment.
My advice to anyone looking for a nice way to get off is to find a really nice bodyworker and stick with them! The good ones are hard to find!
Since a good bodyworker knows the male body and understands the power of touch he is oftentimes far more creative sexually/erotically, since focusing strictly on fucking or getting fucked sort of messes up the foreplay a bit, whereas bodywork is all foreplay with just enough hardcore action to drain your balls. There is something filthy yet almost romantic about a skilled man milking and worshipping your cock and encouraging you to spunk.
HOWEVER...Since I have had limited opportunities for mutual pleasuring and mutual orgasms, a bodyworker such as yourself cumming all over my face or in my mouth is heavenly! For whatever reason I don't get much of that out there in the wild, and so to feel I am good enough/hot enough/whatever enough to warrant someone spunking with me is really hot! I don't think I have major self esteem issues. I think I'm (pretty) great, but to get someone else to agree with me to an extent that he'll let me taste his cum seems to be a bit of an issue...
I shared my thoughts with you in the hope that if you cum across - pardon the pun- a really nice, somehow deserving, guy who is gagging for a nice creamy load from you, just make his day and pump one out all over him....I understand how that can subtly change the balance of power, but if you got some nice bloke gagging for it, just think of me and blow your load for him....
I decided to email you rather than comment on your post, so that I could give you my contact details so you don't think I am some kind of cyber weirdo... I even included a pic.... you are welcome to repost some of this if you like...just no contact info please....
So avid readers.... any thoughts?
Thursday, September 9, 2010
The Sound of Silence.
I work alone in my own apartment. My partner leaves by 8AM and doesn’t return home until 6:30PM. The only people I see at work are my clients, one person at a time in a very relaxed atmosphere with some soft mood music in the background.
If I have to run some errands it is during the day when business is slow, I experience the world slightly different than when I was working in Corporate. The stores are much emptier, few crowds, even the grocery store is peaceful. Yes there is the occasional screaming child but there is usually only one and not a whole slew of them. Even the Laundromat is pretty peaceful during the week day.
Then the weekend comes and I go out with my partner. OMG! The noise level is terrible out there folks! No wonder people need massages! The yelling, the screaming, and I swear whoever invented cell phones needs to be shot. Try talking in a normal voice people, I bet they can still here you. You would think that the texting craze would help, but now people just talk to whomever is with them about who they are texting with.
I am not saying that people should walk around in silence and not have a good time. I understand that volume of the human voice often goes up when a person is excited. It’s just that there are other people in the world who end up hearing everything you say whether they want to or not. We seem a lot less civilized than we used to be.
If I have to run some errands it is during the day when business is slow, I experience the world slightly different than when I was working in Corporate. The stores are much emptier, few crowds, even the grocery store is peaceful. Yes there is the occasional screaming child but there is usually only one and not a whole slew of them. Even the Laundromat is pretty peaceful during the week day.
Then the weekend comes and I go out with my partner. OMG! The noise level is terrible out there folks! No wonder people need massages! The yelling, the screaming, and I swear whoever invented cell phones needs to be shot. Try talking in a normal voice people, I bet they can still here you. You would think that the texting craze would help, but now people just talk to whomever is with them about who they are texting with.
I am not saying that people should walk around in silence and not have a good time. I understand that volume of the human voice often goes up when a person is excited. It’s just that there are other people in the world who end up hearing everything you say whether they want to or not. We seem a lot less civilized than we used to be.
Looks Can Be Deceiving
Last time I talked about my list of notes on clients, nothing that could identify them to a stranger, no addresses, no last names (occasionally a last initial to help identify the numerous Rons, Toms and Johns), no full phone numbers or email addresses; just enough that I can indentify them from a previous visit and what their wants or likes are.
So when Mike called and scheduled an appointment I checked my sheet. He had only been to see me once before and according to my sheet I remained clothed and it was totally legit. I described him as tall, thin, blonde, shy and late 20’s to early 30’s. He called and said he was having issues with his shoulder.
When he arrived he looked a little younger than I remembered. He told me about his shoulder pain in a bit more detail and I left him alone to get on the table and to cover himself. I returned and he was completely covered and I started my work. His shoulder was indeed in bad shape, it felt as if there was definitely some injury. He also had several stress knots through out his back so a lot of time was spent there. His lower back seemed fine so I saved some time there and move to the feet and work up. Now the interesting thing about covering with a towel is that it really doesn’t work to cover much if you shove your genital down between your legs, which is what Mike had done. As I worked his legs they spread further apart, the usual sign for someone wanting a sensual massage including butt work. I have a rule that unless a clear message has been sent, I will not deviate from a prearranged agreement.
When he turns over he is obviously very aroused with a dreamy look on his face. I offer him water and continue with the massage… he groans loudly as I work his chest and abdomen. He reaches for crotch and rubs my erection through my shorts. OK, this well now be a sensual massage. I allow my hands to wander down between his legs lightly stroke his anus before lightly stroking his balls and cock. His eyes are locked on my face as his hands try to find a way inside my shorts to my cock. I help him out by untying my shorts and letting them drop. He strokes my cock as tease his balls. His hand is working it’s way up under my shirt and I remove it. He plays with my nipples as I stroke his anus and tease the whole with the tip of my finger.
He decides now that he wants sex. Not part of my normal service. I try to get him to relax but he is hot and squirming all over the place. He wants to put his hands everywhere on me. I am now trying to get him off so that he will relax and we can finish the massage but he won’t cum. As I have said earlier, 90 seconds to 2 minutes is the norm for a guy to get off once I start actually touching his cock. We are now going 4 minutes and he doesn’t even seem close. He’s obviously enjoying my actions but is also way too focused on me. For some guys, they can only get off if they touch me or give me some pleasure. I fear now that I have a case of a guy who only gets off on getting other guys off. Now my regulars will tell you that this is just not something I do. Some think I just can’t get off, others believe that it must take me hours, most can not believe my staying power, but all know that I do not really want to get off during a session and accept it.
This kid however wants my dick everywhere, he tries to get me in his ass, he wants me in his mouth, and mostly he seems to want to get me off. I explain that isn’t going to happen and he starts begging for my cum on his face, he can’t cum unless I shoot on his face, he’ll do whatever but he needs my cum on his face.
OK. I tell him alright, but I will not to handle my own piece and he will need to handle his. He agrees and grabs his cock and starts jacking as I start jacking my piece right in front of his face. His eyes are glued to my cock as I jack it, his hand is flying on his own piece. I ask if he is getting close and says yes. “Alright” I say, “it’s time. Get ready for my cum. Close your eyes, I don’t want to get it into your face.” He does.
“Yeah dude.” I say “Jack that cock, show me how much you want my cum, yeah man! Jack it. Ready? Here it cums! Oh Fuck! I’m Cumming!” I start grunting up a storm, I let the tip of my cock slap his face repeatedly as I yell. He shouts out “Fuck!” and cums. I cheer him on.
When he is done he wipes his face. “Did you cum? I don’t feel any.”
“Nope” I say. “Told you that I wouldn’t and I didn’t. But you shot a great load, feel better?” He does. When the massage was over (not that there was a lot of time left), I asked him how old he was. He says “19.” You could have knocked me over with a feather. I normally don’t take clients that young. I was tempted to ask for his ID to make sure he was 19 and not any younger but decided that I probably didn’t want to know. He has had some experience with men but not much and just really wanted to see me cum. He asks if I will ever break my rule. I told him I doubt it, but I hope that he will still consider seeing me in the future. He promised to come back as often as he can afford it.
So when Mike called and scheduled an appointment I checked my sheet. He had only been to see me once before and according to my sheet I remained clothed and it was totally legit. I described him as tall, thin, blonde, shy and late 20’s to early 30’s. He called and said he was having issues with his shoulder.
When he arrived he looked a little younger than I remembered. He told me about his shoulder pain in a bit more detail and I left him alone to get on the table and to cover himself. I returned and he was completely covered and I started my work. His shoulder was indeed in bad shape, it felt as if there was definitely some injury. He also had several stress knots through out his back so a lot of time was spent there. His lower back seemed fine so I saved some time there and move to the feet and work up. Now the interesting thing about covering with a towel is that it really doesn’t work to cover much if you shove your genital down between your legs, which is what Mike had done. As I worked his legs they spread further apart, the usual sign for someone wanting a sensual massage including butt work. I have a rule that unless a clear message has been sent, I will not deviate from a prearranged agreement.
When he turns over he is obviously very aroused with a dreamy look on his face. I offer him water and continue with the massage… he groans loudly as I work his chest and abdomen. He reaches for crotch and rubs my erection through my shorts. OK, this well now be a sensual massage. I allow my hands to wander down between his legs lightly stroke his anus before lightly stroking his balls and cock. His eyes are locked on my face as his hands try to find a way inside my shorts to my cock. I help him out by untying my shorts and letting them drop. He strokes my cock as tease his balls. His hand is working it’s way up under my shirt and I remove it. He plays with my nipples as I stroke his anus and tease the whole with the tip of my finger.
He decides now that he wants sex. Not part of my normal service. I try to get him to relax but he is hot and squirming all over the place. He wants to put his hands everywhere on me. I am now trying to get him off so that he will relax and we can finish the massage but he won’t cum. As I have said earlier, 90 seconds to 2 minutes is the norm for a guy to get off once I start actually touching his cock. We are now going 4 minutes and he doesn’t even seem close. He’s obviously enjoying my actions but is also way too focused on me. For some guys, they can only get off if they touch me or give me some pleasure. I fear now that I have a case of a guy who only gets off on getting other guys off. Now my regulars will tell you that this is just not something I do. Some think I just can’t get off, others believe that it must take me hours, most can not believe my staying power, but all know that I do not really want to get off during a session and accept it.
This kid however wants my dick everywhere, he tries to get me in his ass, he wants me in his mouth, and mostly he seems to want to get me off. I explain that isn’t going to happen and he starts begging for my cum on his face, he can’t cum unless I shoot on his face, he’ll do whatever but he needs my cum on his face.
OK. I tell him alright, but I will not to handle my own piece and he will need to handle his. He agrees and grabs his cock and starts jacking as I start jacking my piece right in front of his face. His eyes are glued to my cock as I jack it, his hand is flying on his own piece. I ask if he is getting close and says yes. “Alright” I say, “it’s time. Get ready for my cum. Close your eyes, I don’t want to get it into your face.” He does.
“Yeah dude.” I say “Jack that cock, show me how much you want my cum, yeah man! Jack it. Ready? Here it cums! Oh Fuck! I’m Cumming!” I start grunting up a storm, I let the tip of my cock slap his face repeatedly as I yell. He shouts out “Fuck!” and cums. I cheer him on.
When he is done he wipes his face. “Did you cum? I don’t feel any.”
“Nope” I say. “Told you that I wouldn’t and I didn’t. But you shot a great load, feel better?” He does. When the massage was over (not that there was a lot of time left), I asked him how old he was. He says “19.” You could have knocked me over with a feather. I normally don’t take clients that young. I was tempted to ask for his ID to make sure he was 19 and not any younger but decided that I probably didn’t want to know. He has had some experience with men but not much and just really wanted to see me cum. He asks if I will ever break my rule. I told him I doubt it, but I hope that he will still consider seeing me in the future. He promised to come back as often as he can afford it.
No Orgasm, Thank You!
Not all of my clients want a “Happy Ending” or in my case, “Happy Middle.” I have a number of very legit clients who come to me for just a normal Swedish/Deep Tissue massage. I like to think that most of my clients would come see me even if I didn’t do sensual work, though I may be dreaming on that front.
There is also another group that see me occasionally, those who want sensual massage with no orgasm. Their reasons could be many and varied: they don’t feel they are cheating if they have no orgasm (really), they save their orgasms for their partner, they enjoy the building of sexual energy and want to keep it high, they view edging as a fetish, they are someone’s slave and it what their master wishes, they are exploring non orgasm sex, etc., I have actually heard all of these reasons, and others don’t share their reasons.
These clients make note taking on my part imperative. Case in point, last week I had a returning client and the note I had on my spread sheet simply said “Does not want Orgasm.” So I was giving a sensual massage with anal work, prostate work and other sensual touching while he was on his stomach. When he turned over I worked my way down to his crotch and very lightly and honorably stroked his cock once and moved on. The poor man freaked out on me and got very upset that I touched his penis. Apparently everything else was fine and he liked having the raging hard-on but did not want his penis touched, ever. This was the fault of both of us, he should have made his rules clear and I should have taken better notes. He didn’t want his penis touched on the previous visit either and I had not made that note.
The other day I had a new client the other day, a gorgeous Italian man, who had asked in advance for a very therapeutic massage. Once he arrived he said he did not need a towel for covering himself as he was very open minded. By this time, I know when I hear a phrase like “I am very open minded” that he wants a therapeutic and sensual massage. I decide that I will focus on the therapeutic aspect as much as possible. He is a beautiful man with a very nice ass with the perfect amount of body hair and a lovely color to his skin… so I really needed to focus on the therapeutic touch.
He was definitely a groaner and enjoyed my touch. He occasionally made contact with my leg when I was standing close to the table. I behaved and did not massage his prostate or even his ass lips. When he turned over he was obviously aroused and even asked for a Kleenex to wipe up some of the pre-cum. He asks me if I would be comfortable nude. I go ahead and undress and allow the massage to go into the sensual side. I lovingly stroke his body and start paying attention to his genitals and anal area. He asks me to take it easy with his penis as he is very close. “I don’t want to cum, it will ruin it” he says. “I love the anticipation.” He did enjoy touching me as much as I would allow him and asked for full body contact both on his front side and then again when our time was just about out on his back side. He thanks me repeatedly saying that I was the best massage experience he had found since coming to the States. He tells me about his wife and the troubles they have, how he has always enjoyed the touch of men and women, how repressed America is, how he misses the European values, and how he hopes to see me again is a couple of weeks. No tip. Just saying, nice guy, very attractive, but I remember the fact that there was not tip. I know, Europeans don’t tip. Anyway, all of this goes into short hand in my notes. The clothed to nude aspect that I did, the amount of ass play he seems to like, no ejaculation, the full body contact, his looks, age, no tip, the amount of time we went over, etc. Hopefully, if he does return in a couple of weeks, I will be able to give him better what he wants without going overboard, after all there was no tip ;-).
There is also another group that see me occasionally, those who want sensual massage with no orgasm. Their reasons could be many and varied: they don’t feel they are cheating if they have no orgasm (really), they save their orgasms for their partner, they enjoy the building of sexual energy and want to keep it high, they view edging as a fetish, they are someone’s slave and it what their master wishes, they are exploring non orgasm sex, etc., I have actually heard all of these reasons, and others don’t share their reasons.
These clients make note taking on my part imperative. Case in point, last week I had a returning client and the note I had on my spread sheet simply said “Does not want Orgasm.” So I was giving a sensual massage with anal work, prostate work and other sensual touching while he was on his stomach. When he turned over I worked my way down to his crotch and very lightly and honorably stroked his cock once and moved on. The poor man freaked out on me and got very upset that I touched his penis. Apparently everything else was fine and he liked having the raging hard-on but did not want his penis touched, ever. This was the fault of both of us, he should have made his rules clear and I should have taken better notes. He didn’t want his penis touched on the previous visit either and I had not made that note.
The other day I had a new client the other day, a gorgeous Italian man, who had asked in advance for a very therapeutic massage. Once he arrived he said he did not need a towel for covering himself as he was very open minded. By this time, I know when I hear a phrase like “I am very open minded” that he wants a therapeutic and sensual massage. I decide that I will focus on the therapeutic aspect as much as possible. He is a beautiful man with a very nice ass with the perfect amount of body hair and a lovely color to his skin… so I really needed to focus on the therapeutic touch.
He was definitely a groaner and enjoyed my touch. He occasionally made contact with my leg when I was standing close to the table. I behaved and did not massage his prostate or even his ass lips. When he turned over he was obviously aroused and even asked for a Kleenex to wipe up some of the pre-cum. He asks me if I would be comfortable nude. I go ahead and undress and allow the massage to go into the sensual side. I lovingly stroke his body and start paying attention to his genitals and anal area. He asks me to take it easy with his penis as he is very close. “I don’t want to cum, it will ruin it” he says. “I love the anticipation.” He did enjoy touching me as much as I would allow him and asked for full body contact both on his front side and then again when our time was just about out on his back side. He thanks me repeatedly saying that I was the best massage experience he had found since coming to the States. He tells me about his wife and the troubles they have, how he has always enjoyed the touch of men and women, how repressed America is, how he misses the European values, and how he hopes to see me again is a couple of weeks. No tip. Just saying, nice guy, very attractive, but I remember the fact that there was not tip. I know, Europeans don’t tip. Anyway, all of this goes into short hand in my notes. The clothed to nude aspect that I did, the amount of ass play he seems to like, no ejaculation, the full body contact, his looks, age, no tip, the amount of time we went over, etc. Hopefully, if he does return in a couple of weeks, I will be able to give him better what he wants without going overboard, after all there was no tip ;-).
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