Why don't erotic masseurs and escorts want to kiss?

Not only do most men who work in with erotic energy consider kissing to be one of the most personal experiences that many choose to only share with their significant other, they know it is also the easiest way to get sick. And I don't just mean a cold, flu, or strep throat:

http://infectiousdiseases.about.com/od/respiratoryinfections/a/kissing.htm

Love is in the air

Germs are everywhere

Kissers beware

Of infections you can share.

We know that kisses of passion can lead to one thing or another. But did you know that kissing can also lead to an infectious disease? Mononucleosis, or mono, is the prototypical “kissing disease,” and sexually-transmitted diseases are infamous following some romantic interludes. But did you know that there are many infections that can be spread through mere kissing alone?

Infectious Diseases in Saliva

Infectious diseases are spread through several routes of transmission. “Oral transmission” refers to spreading of microbes through saliva, foods or drinks. When a person accidentally consumes microbe-contaminated items, such as saliva during kissing, the swallowing action of the tongue wipes the microbes against the back of the throat, allowing the microbe to enter the body. Infections, such as mononucleosis (the kissing disease), caused by Epstein-Barr virus (EBV), and cytomegalovirus (CMV) are spread via oral transmission from virus-containing saliva.

Other infectious microbes that spread through saliva do so by sticking to the inner surface of the cheeks and mouth, the tongue, or teeth. An example is the bacterium Streptococcus, which can cause an array of infections, including gum disease and strep throat.

An important thing to keep in mind is that the surfaces of the respiratory tract (nose, mouth, and throat) are continuous and made up of similar tissues. As a result, microbes that are found in the saliva can generally be found in other parts of the respiratory tract, including the nose and throat. Therefore, even colds and flus (and other respiratory infections) can potentially be spread through the saliva.

Infectious Diseases from Mouth Sores

Cold sores

Cold sores are caused by Herpes Simplex Virus-1 (HSV-1). In contrast to infections spread through the saliva, HSV-1 is spread through open cold sores on the lips or near the mouth. Although the infection is contagious through all stages of a cold sore, the infection is most contagious when the sore is open and leaking fluid.

Hand, foot, and mouth disease

Hand, foot, and mouth disease, caused by Coxsackie virus, is another infectious disease that is spread through open sores in the mouth. This infection is common in kids, especially those in daycare or preschool settings. It spreads primarily via the fecal-oral route, a common problem among daycares, since changing of diapers goes on all day.

But canker sores are not infectious.

In contrast to cold sores and coxsackie virus blisters, canker sores have no infectious disease origin and cannot be spread through the saliva or kissing.

What about HIV and Hepatitis B Virus?

HIV and hepatitis B Virus (HBV) are blood-borne and sexually-transmitted infections that have been found in the saliva. Despite the presence of HIV in saliva, there have never been any reports of HIV transmission via this route. In contrast, transmission of hepatitis B virus through saliva has been well documented, as well as hepatitis A and C.

Natural Microbial Defense Mechanisms in the Mouth

Saliva has a natural cleansing role, provided by its flushing activity. Other antimicrobial defenses in the saliva include antibodies and other antimicrobial proteins (e.g., lysozyme), and normal mouth flora (the “good” bacteria that prevents growth of “bad” bacteria).

The spread of infectious microbes through the saliva can occur when natural resistance in the mouth is reduced. For example, gum infections can occur in people with vitamin C deficiencies, and thrush, caused by Candida yeast infections, is more likely to occur in people who have been taking antibiotics. People who are dehydrated have reduced salivary flow and four times more bacteria in their mouths.

Preventing Kissing Diseases

Be careful who you kiss.

Source:

Mims CA, Playfair JH, Roitt, IM, Wakelin D, Williams R, and Anderson RM. Medical Microbiology. ©1993. Mosby-Year Book Europe Limited. London, UK.

Today Sexy Guy

So today was one of those rare days when the client is so much more beautiful than I and yet seems to find me very sexy.
"John" contacted me through a gay massage site and set up a time for a massage. There was not a lot of chatting but I was able to see his profile. There was no photo and it had not been updated in a few years but it appeared that his age was 30 and his description was "fit and trim."
He showed up on time and I was surprised to see a very fit and trim black man about age 30. He seemed pleased to see me and hurried in. I asked the usual questions about aches and pains and as he tells me about his different little aches and his recent activities in sports and his new job as a waiter while he was starting to undress. I must say for a moment I was amazed. His body was amazing. He was muscular and compact, his waist was tiny, his torso a V, his ass was the most amazing bubble butt that I had ever seen and that's saying a lot. His legs were powerful and his cock was huge, his nuts were large and shaved. In general his genitals were far too large for his body. He stood at maybe 5'7" and his waist could not have been more than 26" yet soft his cock was over 6" and fat to boot with balls the size of two large eggs. His butt was also far too large for his light though muscular frame sticking straight out behind him these large full melons defying gravity. He was not at 0 body fat, which made him even more attractive for as the muscles were sitting there in plain view he did not have that "oh for god's sake eat something" look about him, the little fat he had softening the edges and making him approachable.
I told him to climb on the table while I went to wash my hands. I also needed to adjust the erection in my shorts. I told him there was a towel to cover himself if he chose but when I returned he had tossed it aside. He was lying on his stomach as was instructed and one of my favorite sights was in front of me: the curves of a muscular man lying on a flat plane made all the more sensual with the contrast of his dark skin against the cream color of the sheets on the table.
Now there had been no discussion of any erotic or sensual work and generally speaking, most of my younger good looking clients are not really looking for anything more than a good thorough massage, maybe a happy ending with their eyes closed, thinking of someone else perhaps. Even in this state, with the client nude and undraped with legs slightly parted there is still no sure bet of sensual work. His penis was not visible between his legs and I adjusted myself once more and took a deep breath and started my job.
As per usual I start working on John's back, amazed again at the V shape of his torso and tiny waist. His muscle are tight and I give him a deep tissue massage. I check with him often to make sure the pressure is OK. He makes no inappropriate move towards me and I give him a couple of chances. When I work his shoulders with his arm draped over my leg, his forearm milometers from my hard cock, his hand draped on my calf - no advances were made. I work my way to his lower back and hips. Letting my hands graze over those luminous globes of ass.  I work his back hard for 30 full minutes full minutes before I do a light touch over it with just my finger tips. I then massage his scalp and run a finger down his spine to the top of the crack of his ass and back. I check with him to be sure all OK. He says he's doing great. I move to his feet and he sticks a hand beneath his body, raises his hips and shoves his huge erection down between his legs. I am not a size queen but I can be impressed. If his genitals looked too large before, now with a full erection it borderlines on absurd. It is a strong thick uncircumcised cock, the kind with the thick veins showing all over because it is trying to grow even larger. So at least I know I have him aroused. ;-)
I work on his foot and leg trying hard to focus on the task at hand. His calf muscles are well developed and tight. I make sure that he gets the best massage possible and work his tight muscles. I work my way up his leg to the base of his ass. His legs part slightly more and I work the inside of his thighs, it is impossible not to graze his dick since it is filling the space between his legs completely. I bring his foot up and pull his knee outwards and lay the leg back down to open up his groin to massage the adductor muscles. I lean over his ass and run my hands under his leg through his groin, hitting his hard dick and large balls with each stroke, my nose right over the cavern between the mountainous globes of his ass. I lengthen the stroke so that my finger can rub his taint and eventually the rosebud of his ass.  His hand is now right at my crotch and starts to rub it slightly. I repeat the actions far longer than is needed but eventually stop and return his leg to a normal position and check to see how he is doing. "Great" he answers. I then mention that I forgot to ask if he was interested in my being nude - an offer I make to members of the website where he found me. "Yes, that would be nice." I undress and with a smile, repeat the actions on the other leg.
I reach the portion of the massage where I get to focus on that giant Bubble Butt. I truly wish I had taken a picture of it for you. With his small waist and low percentage of body fat his ass stood tall and proud above every other part of his body as he lay on stomach. I started working on the cheek opposite from the side of the table from where I am standing so I am bending over his body and my erection is poking his hip, his hand finds it and wraps around it. I massage his glute deep and hard using both hands like kneading dough and then working across the fibrous muscles with my elbow. I then dig into the crevasse of  his ass stroke from the center out, lightly stroking the rose bud as I do. Then stroke from the top of his crack down over the rosebud, taint, balls to the end of that long thick cock and work my way back. I repeat this action again and again while he strokes my cock. I smile and switch sides of the table and repeat.
I now do a few strokes from shoulders to toes and back, again casually grazing his ass crack. I apply a bit more cream to his rosebud and slowly massage it, his giant cock is twitching and leaking. I lean down to his ear and ask if he would like a prostate massage. "I have never had one but would be willing to try it."
I add a bit more lube and work a single finger into his ass, working between those meaty globes. I go slowly and find his prostate and slowly start rubbing it, his cock is throbbing and leaking copious amounts of pre-cum. After a few moments I withdraw and add a little more lube and a second finger. I again work the fingers slowly in and massage the prostate, I also start working the fingers in circles to widen his sphincter. I check to be sure that his cock is still hard and give it a stroke or two with my free hand, it is like a rock and still oozing. I remove my two fingers and apply still more lube and slowly work three fingers in. I go slowly, stopping occasionally to allow him to adjust to the size. While waiting for him to adjust he suddenly shove his ass up onto my fingers, I follow his ass as it goes down and continue to shove forward until my fingers are completely buried in his ass. I again hold for a few moments then start massaging his prostate and then start fucking him with my hand. I again do this probably longer than needed but it is great fun. I take my hand out and clean it and ask him if he was alright. "That was amazing!" he responds.
"I am going to climb onto the table and work on your back, I promise not to do anything unsafe while I am up there."
"Alright"
I climb onto the table between his legs and start doing long strokes from his feet to his shoulders, my dick sliding up and over his ass cheeks as I go. Work his lower back and then start with my forearms on his ass checks and slide them up to between his shoulder blades. This angle causes my cock slide over his balls and stick deep in the crevasse of his ass. I am careful not to apply to much pressure on his ass so as not to freak him out but keep the dick there for a few moments. I bring my body back and stroke forward again over his back  with my fore arms again and like before, keep my dick knocking at the gates but with no pressure at all. I do not want to fuck him (alright, I do, but I won't) but I want him to think that I might. I again bring my body back and stretch forward again this time lying my body on top his with my dick lying between his ass cheeks with the head at the top of his ass crack. My hands reach down and grasp his hands and I hump his ass ever so slightly, his rises to greet my dick. I stiffen my body against his and squeezes his ass against my dick. I rise up and give some light full body strokes before I lay atop of him again and repeat the previous moves. I climb off and towel him down and do full body feather strokes and ask him to turn over.
I offer him a drink of water and he reclines on his back when he is through. Those melons that stuck up so proudly before are now forcing his crotch high into the air, his long uncut cock has a natural upward curve that I had not noticed before and the head of it alone is touching his abs well above his belly button. I start work on his chest and his head is straining to feel my own hardon as I stand at the head of the table. He finds my erection with his right ear and smiles as he leans his head into it, snuggling with it. His cock jump a bit each time I tease one of his nipples - I make a mental note of that.
I work my way down to his abs, doing circles over his belly and my hands knocking his stiff cock as I rub further down into his pubes with each circumference. I do a stroke up his cock, following the natural curve and amazed at it's length and girth. I follow the curve down again and over his balls down to his rosebud then back up, cupping his large balls and puling them tight, tickling them with the finger tips of my other hand. He is still oozing pre-cum but I want a bit more lube so I add a bit and some again at his hole so I continue to play there. I should make this last but I am hot and just want to jerk him till he cums. His hand is on my cock and he is gently jerking me. I take his cock with both hands and start sliding them both up and down, one following the other, the lower hand sliding pass his ball and stroking his hole before coming up. He releases my cock and puts his hand behind my back, reaching as far as he can as if he is trying to get his arm around me. I step towards the head of the table and his hand keeps reaching around my back, I take another step towards his head while still pumping his dick with both hands. He now can get his hand around hips and pulls me towards his head, I allow myself to be pulled but continue to pump his dick. he sits up a bit then leans over and engulfs my dick in his mouth. This beautiful specimen of young manhood wants nothing more than to suck the hell out of my dick and suck the hell out of it he does. My rule is I don't cum with my clients and my mind is racing a mile minute trying to get my mind off of the grade A blow job I am getting, he is sucking with such gusto and determination, his hands wandering around my ass and up to my nips. I reach with my right hand and get a finger up his ass again and long stroke his cock with my left. I am hoping he will cum before I can no longer hold out but my hips are doing there own thing now and I am pumping his mouth and he is loving it. I take the finger out of his ass and use it to cup the head of his dick and I stroke the length with my other hand, his hips are pumping as well, I know it won't be much longer. His cock is so hard and I feel each vein as it slides through my hand, his mouth is velvety warm around my cock.
In a last ditch effort I take my hand off his cock head and press down hard on his pubic bone, this applies pressure to the bladder and sends him over the edge. A fountain of thick milky white cum shoots from his cock covering his chest and abs. His body heaves with enthusiasm of his orgasm and his ass muscles tense and contract thrusting his groin into the air over and over. He doesn't let go of cock, he keeps sucking on it like there is no tomorrow, like it is the last cock on earth and if he were to let go there would be no other chances. I am perilously close to cumming I try to with draw and his hand claw at my hips. His orgasm subsides and I take his hands in mine and remove them from my hips and withdraw my cock. Orgasm averted. I take a towel and wipe him down. I finish the massage with stretches and long feathery strokes, he reaches for and holds onto my cock when ever it it near.
When it is over and he is draped in a towel, I ask him how he feels. "Amazing, that was a great massage, exactly what I was looking for." He gets up and dresses, his cock now soft is still too long for his body and his balls too large and his ass full and proud. He takes my business card and a few extra. "That was great, I am definitely going to recommend you to my friends and I will be back again for sure." He tips me well and I thank him. I smile as I watch him leave and think about being able to do it all again. ;-)

DADT is dead

DADT is done. Just a quick note to say how thrilled I am about this. Now remember that when Don't Ask Don't Tell was signed into law, it was actually a step forward. Instead of an all out ban on homosexuals in the military, the law was meant to say it's none of our business, but please keep it under wraps. Huge step forward at the time.
Unfortunately it ended up discharging even more men and women than before the ban. Not to mention it was incredibly hard for men and women to serve silently.
But now it is all over and there is much to celebrate. This is a big step forward, though we are still far behind many other countries and gay men and women still suffer a number inequalities under the law in the US. Any thoughts on how long until Federal Recognition of same sex marriage?

Catching up. Not a sexy post. ;-)

First off another apology for not posting in forever. Life, y'know? I have been doing more acting which eats up a lot of my time, I should be writing a short play right now, but I needed to talk to y'all first. Still doing bodywork during the days. Partner is doing fine. He has been in the process of switching careers, a very long slow process, but I am sure that he will be much happier, if not richer. Money is not everything, but it is important in this particular reality.
Overall happiness has abounded considering it has been a rough year so far. One car accident that wasn't our fault and not terrible but upped the insurance to an almost impossible rate. Partner was laid off from his job about 3 months before he planned to quit. His new business is getting off the ground slowly. Next month rent may be an issue for the first time in an amazingly long time, or it won't be. Dealing with ailing parents on my side. So far I have not had to make an emergency trip home, but it won't surprise me too much if I do. We had booked and laid down deposits on a trip to the UK and to the beach before my partner was laid off. Though money was tight we went anyway and had a really nice time in  the UK. Beach was OK. I need to find a new summer get away.
Partner needed new hearing aids, wow, that was expensive... $4000.00 and insurance did not cover a penny of it. Now why would insurance cover birth control and Viagra but not hearing aids? Strange world, but you just have to smile.
I have decided to live life with out a TV. It actually blew up (it was 16 years old) and I probably could afford to replace it, but I realized that it was just not necessary. I was wasting to much time in front of it anyway, and I am re-discovering radio and my amazing CD collection.
Business has been better this year than last, which is good. I do wish the news would stop harping about the economy. Every time there is a major headline about the economy being bad, business drops off for at least a week. However, as I said earlier, bringing in more than last year so that is good!
The acting has been great fun and I had forgotten how much I missed it. It is a lot of hard work but the more you do the easier it is. Gotten a number of good reviews and nominated for a couple of local awards, nice to be recognized.
Spend a lot of time watching old movies at one of our local cinemas and through Netflix on our computer. Keeping cool this terribly hot summer. Other than one or two exceptions, there has not been a lot that I have wanted to see this summer in new movies.
Our time in the UK was made magical by meeting up with  long lost friends who were wonderful hosts, one couple in Wales and another in Ireland. They took time out of their busy schedules to take us to their favorite spots and arranged affordable or even free housing for us including a night in an authentic Irish castle.
The trip to the Beach was a little less spectacular. If you are a regular reader of this blog, then you know I wrote about a gay men's clothing optional bed and breakfast that we have stayed at. Well, after a good many years of making one or two pilgrimages a year there, I think we have had enough. The rates continue to rise each year and the thrill has definitely worn off. Our favorite parts of the trip were not the hot men or the lying out naked but the free concerts at the beach and the nice new little spots to eat. Perhaps next year we need to try nude camping instead. ;-)
Well, that is about it in a nutshell, I am growing a beard for my next role and it is coming in very white - fine for the role but a bit of shock to some of my clients... others love it. Though I do not go to bars frequently, I will say the white beard attracts it own very unique set of young men. I was a bit shocked to be referred to as a "daddy" but I can see the advantages... though honestly, always been attracted to men close to my own age.
Alright, I promise to write again soon about something that you will actually be interested in. Thanks for listening. - Jack

Other cultures…

We are the sum of our experiences.

While I was brought up in a rural neighborhood by very Christian parents, I was also fortunate enough to experience a lot of little life lessons about how no one is perfect and perhaps we all need stop judging and stop trying to pretend that we are any better than we are. For example, while my parents were bringing me up in a very religious life, I also knew that my mother was married twice and I had 4 half brothers, no big deal right? In a very rural and religious part of the country divorce was still looked down upon and it wracked my mother with guilt. Little did I know how the story continues. When I was 16, the only one of the 5 boys still at home, my parents put some photos of when they were younger on display. Well, imagine my surprise when I saw the photo of my father as a young boy looks exactly like a photo of my closest half-brother. When I confronted my mother, she says “Well, I guess there is something we should tell you. He is your full brother, your father and I were having an affair when I was still married to my first husband.” See, even my saintly parents were not perfect and had sex, a lot. While this traumatized me shortly, I soon had my own problems with realizing I was gay, which, when I told my parents they had all the usual responses: It’s a phase, you will go to hell, we will put you through therapy, it’s our fault for not raising you right, it’s god’s punishment for our sins (which is when I learned that mother had to get married the first time because she was pregnant). They did not kick me out of the house; I was in college and didn’t live there any more anyway. My father did say that he loved me but we would never speak of it again. My mother would ask me questions whenever my father was not around. Eventually, as the years passed, my father came around and even they even changed churches to a more liberal one accepting of gay people. If I had been born a decade earlier, I may have gotten married and had children and not come out till later in life and been looking for an understanding gay massage therapist.

Likewise each of my clients are coming to my table with their own unique background. Recently a black man in his early thirties came to me for an erotic massage. He also was raised a Christian and was taught that homosexuality is wrong. He has never told anyone about his feelings for men. He has managed not to get married by telling everyone that he is “playing the field.” He dates women, but never for very long. Many in his life most likely suspect, but have not yet pressured him to “repent” and marry. His experience with men is extremely limited, since he worries that someone will see him with a known gay man. He won’t answer a personal ad, he won’t go to a sex club, he won’t go to an adult bookstore, he won’t go to a gay bar so the few experiences he has had have been mainly when he travels out of town on vacation by himself or for business. His knowledge about safe sex I find was sadly lacking. So he was thrilled to find me, though he drove a good distance to get to me and even then parked around the corner, just in case someone he knows might know what work I do and see his car out front. He was able to let me know that he wanted a sensual massage and wanted to see me naked. I took pity on him and stripped. ;-)

Likewise I recently had an Israeli client who doesn’t want anyone to know that he is gay, for many of the same reasons (slightly different religion). He is an extremely attractive man who trims his body hair all over. He is extremely fit and trim with well defined abs. Normally a man like this should be doing porn, not paying me to give him an erotic massage (although I have massage porn stars before, everyone needs some relaxation). Anyway, because he does not get many chances to be with men, he prefers to pay for his experiences. He avoids bath houses and gay bars since he is worried someone he knows may see him entering or leaving such places. He worries about what might happen if he met a stranger on line, it may be a trap or he may get robbed or worse. So he keeps an eye out for ads for massage by men that have been up for a long time and have good reviews. That is how he found me.

Our session begins as normal with him stripping down and lying naked face down on the table. He asks me if I will strip down as well. I do. I massage his back and legs, he is tense but is relaxing and sinking into the table. He occasionally strokes my cock if it near his hand but is not frantic about it. As I stroke his inner thighs, he sighs contently. I reach through his crotch, under his leg and feel his hard penis. He moans lightly. I massage his buttocks and he grinds slightly into the table. I stroke lightly outside his anus and his perineum, he raises his hip slightly inviting me further. I slowly slide a lubed finger into his ass and massage his prostate. He undulates, trying to get me further into his ass. I slip in a second finger and stroke in and out slowly. He moans lightly. I clean my hands and climb upon the table. I stroke his body from feet to shoulders paying particular attention to his glutes. I lay upon his back with my hard cock nestled between his firm butt cheeks, I grab his hands in mine and squeeze while I stiffen my body giving him my full weight. I climb off and do a light finger stroke over his entire back side and wipe him down with a towel.

I tell him it is time to turn over, I offer him a drink which he takes eagerly while I re-arrange the towels and bolsters. I tell him to lie down on his back and I go to work on his well defined chest cover with shortly trimmed dark hair. I tease his nipple and watch his uncut hard penis twitch. He is hung average, not too large or small and of decent width. I move down to rub his hard abs, his cock doing a frantic dance, begging for attention. I stroke it occasionally to let it know that it has not been forgotten. I switch sides and repeat the ab work. Just as I start stroking his cock with gusto, he asks if we can change positions so he can massage me. I have done this with clients in the past, usually only after they have been regulars for some time, but he has really good energy and I am genuinely aroused. I say sure and switch places with him, lying on my back, showing him where the creams and towels are if he needs anything. He very lovingly strokes my entire body from head to toe. He has a gentle and curious touch, almost as if a blind man is exploring my body for the first time. When he starts to focus on my genitals, he experiments with different strokes on my cock and balls. He then moves down to give me an external anal massage. Through it all he asks for feed back and I give him as much as I can, telling him to experiment and letting him know what feels good. I allow him to play for maybe 15 minutes total before I tell him it is time to switch back. His cock is still very hard and dripping cum.

I massage his legs a bit then go to town on his cock, balls and ass. His hand has a firm grip on my cock stroking it quickly. I know he is close but I tease him, letting him rest between strokes and teasing his nipples. When I feel he has had enough, I focus on his cock while looking into his eyes and encourage him to cum, “yeah man, that’s it, oh fuck yeah, do it now!” He cums, shooting all over his chest, yelling and grunting as he does. I clean him up and continue the massage with the stretches for his legs and arms. I finish with the blessing and ask him how he is doing. He is nothing but smiles and says he loved the massage. He asks me if he could make me cum, I reply that I prefer to share that with my partner (though honestly I was thinking about how much I wanted to fuck that tight hairy ass of his). He understands and we share a naked hug. I hope I get to see him again.

Anyway, the list will go on. I have clients who are Indians, American Indians, Hispanics etc, each with it’s own set of hang ups on sex, particularly gay sex. Many get married like they are expected to, the younger ones put it off if they can. Many have moved far from their families but even then feel that there are others in their current society who will be more judgmental than they can handle. Many clients have their own personal baggage from personal experience that were either pleasant or not. Some open up and tell me as much as they can while others will tell me nothing at all, in which case, I just have to listen to their bodies and my intuition and hope for the best.

Again as I have said before, to think that there is no place in our society for workers like me is only because you do not know what is out there.

The most aggravating client.

OK, how to annoy your masseur? By not taking no for an answer, ever.

Actual texts from a client:

Client: morning

Me: morning

Client: Can I ask you a question?

Me: Sure

Client: Will you top me?

Me: No, sorry.

Client: Why not?

Me: I don’t do that with clients.

Client: Do you ever top?

Me: Yes, I am a top, but only with my partner.

Client: So, will you top me?

Me: No.

Client: Can I still get a massage?

Me: Yes, and I hate texting.

He schedules an appointment, he is a repeat client. We will call him Hank. He is a married man in his 30’s, muscular but also a bit over weight, bald, and a successful business owner. When he is on the table, he is a perfect gentleman. As per arranged, I do give him the usual manual release, but I stay dressed. The most he does in reciprocation is to occasionally stroke my leg. He takes an hour massage and tips exceedingly well. No mention is made of sex or the texts, all he talks about is his business and his father.

One week later, it starts again.

Hank: morning

Me: morning

Hank: Can I ask you a question

Me: Sure

Hank: Will you top me?

Me: no

Hank: Why not?

Me: I don’t do that with clients.

Hank: Why not?

Me: I don’t. I think you need a hooker, they are expensive.

Hank: Do you know any?

Me: No. Why do want to be topped?

Hank: I have a buddy who lets me suck him off, he wants to top me.

Me: So let him.

Hank: He has a huge penis, it scares me. Looking for a smaller one to break me in. I’ve never been topped.

(not sure how I should feel about this….)

Me: Ok, I can give you a prostate massage and gently work your anus open so you can take a penis.

Hank: So you won’t top me?

Me: No

Hank: Can I still get a massage?

Me: Yes

And we schedule another session. He only wants an hour, so I give him quick massage to relax him before I start work his ass while he is still lying on his stomach. I start with lots of lube and one finger. He likes the sensation as I work the finger back and forth and rub his prostate. I add another finger and my other hand I stroke his back and legs. He is very tight so we spend a long time with the just the two fingers. He undulates his hips more so I reach under to find his penis (average sized) and it is partially erect. I stroke it and he starts to moan. I withdraw my fingers from his ass and add more lube, I stop stroking his penis as I start to work three fingers into his ass. He tenses and I stop, my knuckles are still outside his ass, if this is going to work, he will need to relax so I just wait. Eventually his sphincter starts to relax and he pushes back onto my fingers, I work them in circles as I gently push forward. My knuckles slip through and all three fingers are into as far as the will go, I pause again to let him adjust to the new feelings. His penis had lost a bit of firmness, so I play gently with the head and it regains its full firmness. I start a rhythmic pumping of my fingers in and out of his hole as I stroke his cock, then his legs, then his back and then back to his cock.

I remove my fingers and tell him to get on all fours. I add lube to my fingers and again insert three, this time with very little hesitation. I add lube to his cock and start milking him while I thrust my fingers in and out of his hole. I remove all three finger and add my pinky as I go back in, he grunts but he takes it. I work his hole around and back and forth, paying close attention to his prostate while I continue to milk his cock, he moans loudly and shoots all over the sheet on the massage table. I stop the thrusting and keep my fingers in as far as they will go in his ass while he shoots.

When he is finished, I withdraw and get a cum towel and start cleaning up my hand and his cock and wiping as much cum as I can off the sheet. I lay a fresh towel on the sheet and tell him to lie on his back. I use the few remaining moment to give the front side of his body a rub down. Other than some moans and groans, he has been silent about the activities, he had talked a bit about his business and his father at the beginning of the session but has not talked in words for some time. “How are you doing Frank?”

“Fine. Good. Thanks.”

“Are you OK with the ass play?”

“Yeah, that was good.”

“OK” I say. “You took 4 fingers which means with a little patience you should be able to take just about any cock. Just let him know to go slow, prep yourself with some finger play and you should be fine. About the only difference is that I stopped when you came, a lot of tops won’t. They want to get off in your ass and will keep going until they do. Also, make sure that he wears a condom and you use plenty of lube. No negotiation on that. Got it?

“Yeah. Thanks.”

A little more chit chat about his work and he leaves, giving me another generous tip.

A week later, the same texts except he now wants to be “topped roughly.” I say no repeatedly and he books a regular massage. He shows up an hour late. Not cool. He apologizes and says he’ll leave if I can’t take him now (I can and frankly I need the money).

So, as we get started I ask him how being topped by his friend went. “We didn’t do it, I chickened out.”

“Sorry to hear that.”

“I am just afraid it will hurt.”

“Did it hurt when I fingered you?”

“No, it was uncomfortable a couple of times.”

“Did you enjoy it?” I ask.

“Yeah.”

“You still want to be fucked though, you asked me again today.”

“Yeah.”

“But not by your friend?”

“Not ready.”

“OK” I say. “You want to be fucked roughly by me so you are ready for him?”

“Yeah, will you?

“No. But I will work your ass pretty damn hard with my fingers again.”

“OK”

So we set off on a similar routine as before, but I go up to four fingers much faster and really shove them in and out hard. I pump his cock as before until he cums but I continue to shove my fingers in and out of his hole until leaps forward off my fingers.

“Are you OK?” I ask.

“Yeah.”

“A bit different feeling after you are done cumming isn’t it?”

“yeah.”

“Sure your OK?”

“yeah.”

I finish the massage in silence and after we are done I tell him that odds are that is what your top might do. “If he does and it is too much, then you just leap off of him like you did with me. The best position for a first timer is generally with both of you lying on your sides with the top behind you. The other option for a first timer is for you to squat over his dick while he is lying on his back, this puts you in control. Doggy style is fine on a bed, but don’t let him pin you up against a wall or a table, you will then have no control whatsoever.”

“Ok”

That was all about a month ago. He still has not let the guy top him. He still texts me every week. I still really hate texting. He still wants me to “top him roughly.” I still say no, he still gets a massage and finger the hell out of his ass and he tips me well. He still wants appointments at the last second and has shown up late and done a no show, all cardinal sins. When he does show, he is generally well behaved and tips well, so that is how he is still my client.

If I knew of a good gay sex therapist or surrogate, I would recommend that he see one. How frustrating it must be for him to know what he wants but be so afraid of it at the same time. I feel sympathy for his situation, I really do. I am just a sensual masseur and not wanting to be anything more in that line of business right now.

Repeat Clients get special treatment.

A large percentage of my work is on repeat customers, many who have been coming to see me for several years now. Some who choose to spend their birthdays with me and occasionally I will go an extra mile for these customers, especially if they have been good tippers as well.

I will go out of my way to fit them into my schedule, I will try to arrange music they have said they liked, make sure the room temp is to their liking, wear the underwear they like, have extra candles burning and the like.

These clients will also most likely get some of their other requests at least considered and often granted. For example, one of my married clients who finally told me his real first name after three years, has asked to start the session with him undressing me. Fine. He takes his time and kisses and licks as he goes, I will also undress him. He always books a 90 minute session and will often spend the first 30 minutes undressing each other and exploring my body. He has discovered that I like having my balls licked. I have taught him that crevasse of the leg and pubic area is one of the most sensitive of the body. I have also taught him that his ears are erogenous zone, and though he tries to return the favor, he still is learning the art subtlety.

Another client who enjoys this type of beginning to the session wants to “make out” for an extended period of time. I will confess, I have more issues with this than any thing else. First off, it’s very rare that their breath is as fresh as it should be. Second, a lot of men kiss really badly… a bit like a giant blind slug of a tongue is trying to burrow it’s way down your gullet. Third, kissing is a very intimate act, much more than hugging, jacking, or even fucking. Saliva is exchanged, breath is shared, tasting of each others mouths, the feeling of another’s tongue and teeth, the pressing of lips against lips, the burn of the facial hair. It is all very intimate and sometimes difficult to do if the guy looks like your grandfather. It is very rare that anyone except a long term client will even attempt to kiss and then I will only allow if they have been a very good long term client that makes regular appointments, keeps them and tips well. Honestly, it does nothing for me in that I do not find it to be a turn on to be kissed by anyone but my partner. I have never been a random kisser. Even in my dating days, I very rarely kissed someone until I was sure I liked them and was willing to explore a relationship. I have never liked the guys who will come up and try to tongue you 10 minutes after meeting. You can suck my dick if you want something to do with your tongue, or rim me even, I like that. Note that I do refer to the tongue in all this. A peck on the cheek is fine of course, even a peck on the lips is fine, providing we have been intimate. I am always taken aback when a casual friend will kiss me on the lips – just something I never expect.

Occasionally a long term client will ask if he can give me a massage as part of his time. Again, if he has been a good client, I will go for this. Many just want to give me some of the same pleasure that I give them. Most however just want the opportunity to touch another man all over, something that they don’t get to do in their regular lives. Remember that a lot of my clients are men married to women and have been for years. So yes, in these cases I will let them massage me. I will lie on the table and relax, offer advice occasionally, or if they just want to focus on my cock and balls for a while, I may let them. I have incredible dick control after all these years, so I will only cum if I truly want to and since I don’t cum with clients, I usually don’t. I say usually because I am only human and occasionally my concentration slips. Why if I do all of this would I still be a stickler about not cumming for my clients? The answers are still the same: it is not practical to try to cum multiple times every day, there are clients who repulse me, I save something for my partner, and it can also send a wrong message to the client and breaks down the client/masseur relationship. There needs to be a professional distance for everyone’s sake. I do this for money, not because I want to have sex with every guy I meet.

Not that I don’t get to know some of my regulars quite well. I usually end up knowing what line of work they are in and whether they like it, their spouses names, how many kids (and their names), where they take vacations, if their parents are alive or not, what their sexual experiences have been, what kind of money they have, what their fears are, what their hopes are, what they wish thy had done differently in their lives, their health histories, and obviously I get to know them physically. What each ones erogenous zones are, what they don’t like, where they have had injuries, ailments. I know their smells, the texture of their skin (this varies more than you could possibly imagine), whether they die their hair, what shape their feet are in, whether they are gaining or loosing weight and what exercise the do.

Back to my regulars. Some of the requests I have heard and to some degree have helped my regulars with: premature ejaculation, prolonged prostate massage, mild fisting, ball torture, tickle torture, and occasionally I have let them suck my dick. I know that I am sounding more and more as a whore instead of a massage therapist. Let me clarify again, that only half or so of my clients receive any erotic elements, only long term clients who tip well receive consideration of their special requests so perhaps I do these sort of things a couple of times a month (and no I don’t charge extra for these services, though I do expect them to tip well). Do I always want to do these things? No, not really. Oh, there are times that I do because the client is cute and has a great personality. But more often than not, I do them as a bonus to reward a good client and it is all just part of the job.

Another thing I appreciate is the occasional gift for an occasion like birthday or Christmas. One of my clients gives me a bottle of Bourbon each Christmas, several throw in an extra large tip (always appreciated), I get Christmas cards, house plants, condoms (seriously), and of course Christmas ornaments and the like. These all mean something to me and I do remember when it comes to special requests. I just want to state that any of my clients reading this already treat me wonderfully. Hope everyone has a good experience with massage soon! - Jack