Fame

Occasionally I get someone famous on my table, sometimes I recognize them easily, other times I don't. People can be famous for a lot of different things, though most people will immediately assume I mean someone on television or in the movies. While that has happened, it is not the norm. I have had famous authors whose names may be easily recognizable but their faces are not. I have had famous lawyers, activists, artists, politicians, actors, CEOs and even porn stars. They all have one thing in common, they want a good massage.
I have found that dealing with famous people, the best thing is to just ignore that they are famous. I would never bring it up to a client that I recognize them as a celebrity.  This is usually appreciated, especially in an intimate setting. Often times they have given me a fake name so I am buying into something they have set up. There has only been one occasion when I was asked "Don't you recognize me?" I replied with "No, should I?" They told me who they were and I said "That's nice. Now back to the session, is everything ok?"
There are times when a celebrity doesn't want to be a celebrity. When an actor can just be themselves and not the persona that has been created, or a politician can just be a guy enjoying a massage, or a porn star is not expected to perform for someone else. Guys on my table can spend 90 mins not acting like they think people expect them to and just relax.
But what goes through my head? Well, most of the time I spend a few minutes wondering "Is that really so an so?" and then I can focus on the job again. A few times I have been distracted with the idea of power over this powerful person. I have a lot of control in that sacred space. I can massage gently or vigorously, light or deep, I can allow or not mutual touch, I can be clothed or naked, I can give a legit or sensual massage, I can go farther if I want or not. All this is dependent on what the client wants, but once their intentions are known, everything else is my choice.
I think I have talked before about perhaps doing a much deeper tissue massage than what the client needs when hearing a client spout on about conservative politics. Have not done that often, but I have done it. Not proud of it, but I will be honest about it. There was also the time I was asked to fist one of the biggest CEO's in the country, a bit of a power trip there. And yes, there is a very special feeling when a porn star, who could have any guy he wants, asks if he can suck your dick. And you let him. And he pays you.
There are times, though not often, that I am giving a celeb a massage that is perfectly legit, but my mind is constantly saying "I could so fuck this guy, man what a great story that would make!" I of course would not actually tell anyone if I did, much less even say that they were on my table. I usually have to remind myself to just give the massage and focus on that, otherwise my work will be terrible and they will never come back.
Sorry, no lurid tales here of specific acts or body parts. Some powerful guys have huge dicks, some do not. Some want to be in control, some do not. Some are tops, some are bottoms. They just want a good massage, some with release, some without.
- Jack

Question from reader

Sorry I have not written in a while, I like to write when I have something to say, I try to stay silent when I don't. So a question from a reader:

Hi Jack,
I love your blog, thanks for putting so much time into it!

I'm writing because I have a question for you, but let me give some background first. I'm a fit bi guy in my early 30s and have seen this particular massage therapist several times. He's probably in his early 60s, also fit, and works out of a private studio, very professional set up.

The first time I got a massage from him, we didn't really discuss much. I just wanted to relax. Of course he asked me all the usual questions about if I had any issues that needed to be worked on, then he asked me to get undressed and to lay down on the table face up, as he leaves the room to give me some privacy.

I've always prefer no drape but we didn't talk about it so I figured why not see what happens. I get undressed and laid on top of the table face up as he asked. When he returned I could hear the surprise in his voice, even though he was trying to downplay it. He said I could get under the sheet if I want but that it doesn't matter to him. So I said I prefer nothing covering me. And the massage began.

He gave a great massage, I happened to get aroused when he worked on my thighs but nothing was said. He bumped my penis with his forearms a few times, and then managed to sort of trap my penis between his forearms and stroke me with a twisting motion of his forearms until I came. Then he spent some time finishing the rest of the massage.

I paid and tipped well, and thanked him for a great massage.

The next time I saw him 6 weeks later, he apologized for what happened and said that he doesn't do that kind of thing. Which seemed odd to me because the forearm maneuver seemed pretty advanced. But I told him there's no need to apologize, I enjoy getting a massage regardless of any extras. Nothing less than professional happened during that session.

At my third appointment a month later, he gave me the original forearm treatment. And ever since then it has progressed to the point where he uses his hands and hardly waits a five minutes before going for my penis. Of course I enjoy it but I am only scheduling time with him for when I want something more stimulating with that extra attention, and I go to someone else for a more traditional relaxing massage. I'm not complaining though, it's nice.

My question though is that I want to see if he would be comfortable being nude. But every time he's fully dressed and it seems like he pulls away whenever I try to let my hand graze over his leg or his crotch. I'm not sure how to approach the subject since he has seemed less than comfortable from the beginning. And despite his pulling away, he seems like he can't keep his hands away from my penis.

It's a confusing situation, hopefully you can provide a point of view from the massage therapist side of the table. Is there a non-offensive way to ask a massage therapist to get undressed? Considering this situation or just in general? (In case I offend him and end up looking for someone new.)

Thanks,
Fan

My response:

Hey Fan,

 

Communication is key to any good relationship, including one with a therapist. Do you usually contact him by phone or email when setting up an appointment? Use that method to ask him if he would be willing to work nude, also let him know your intentions. I am assuming if you want him to work nude you also want mutual touch. Assure him that you will respect his choices and will continue to see him regardless, and mean it. 

 

Every masseur sets up their own personal boundaries. It sounds as if you have already gotten him to cross a couple, but there will be a limit. He may not like mutual touch because to him that feels too much like prostitution, or he has a significant other and it feels too much like cheating, or he has issues getting an erection. There could be many reasons, but you won't know unless you ask.

 

I am also concerned that you have chosen to go to someone else for non-erotic massage. This tells me you do have issues with communication. You should be able to tell your masseur what you want when you call or email, and they should respect that.

 

Just be polite, say please and thank you, let him choose his path of action, don't give him any ultimatums.

I wish you the best of luck.

- Jack

Let me know if any of you have similar experiences and how they turned out!

The importance of variety

So I work on a variety of men, all shapes sizes and ages (over 18). I know a lot of gay bodyworkers who won't or will do things to discourage some guys from showing up on their table. There is one who charges by the pound, others who will not offer erotic services to anyone they consider less than desirable, some set age limits or flat out state in their ads that only men of a certain age ranges and/or weight range are allowed since their massages are such that guys outside that range would not benefit their work or could even endanger them.
I work on just about anyone, especially if they have good energy. Hard to put that in an ad, but it's true. Karma often pays off well because of it.
Take for example Mark. He works at a local university and is a big gay guy. 450 lbs at least and not a bit of it muscle. He is probably in his late 40's and flaming. He is also very lonely. So when he showed up for an appointment and climbed the stairs and  was all out of breath and chatting a mile a minute I was pleased to give him the massage he needed. The only difference being that I didn't climb on top of the table with him to work on his back, I was pretty sure that the table wouldn't take it. He was very appreciative and though he didn't give me a big tip he did take a few of my cards and promised to give them out to people looking for a good massage. He promised to come back regularly but that turned out to be about once every three months.
However, he gave one of my cards to a co-worker, Gary the librarian. He called and set up an appointment and let me know that Mark was the one who had recommended me. So of course in my mind, limited as it is at times, I assumed at the very least, Gary would be on the larger side. When he showed up, you could have knocked me over with a feather. Gary was in his late 40's but he had a body to kill for. Not an ounce of body fat, except on his bubble but, definitely a life long body builder, beautiful face and perfect hair. Very responsive to my touch and very sensual. Total bottom and loved to touch me and my dick as much as I loved to touch him. This man should never wear clothes! He sees me about every three weeks and tips very well. I never would have him as a client if it were not for Mark's recommendation which I only got by treating him as well as I try to treat every customer. Good lesson for us all.

The young and first time

In a previous post I talked about the men of a certain (older) age that come to me for their first man to man experience. I also see a number of guys in their 20's and 30's who want their first experience with a guy to be at my hands.
Try to understand that words like gay and straight and bi sexual are all relatively unimportant to me as they are to a lot of my clients. Many of my clients see themselves as straight, but they just happen to like to suck cock or to have something shoved up their ass. I understand what they are saying. They are willing to separate the physical acts of sex from the emotional acts of love. They would never dream of "marrying" another man. They feel a kinship perhaps with other men, no love or strong emotional attachments, but hell yes the like the sex.
In today's world of acceptance, many young men are willing to try man to man sexual contact out of curiosity about the physical acts. There is no deep-seeded longing to find the man of their dreams. Emotionally these men still love women and sexually are primarily attracted to women, but are willing to experiment with man to man contact for fun. Perhaps the religious leaders were right all along, with greater acceptance of homosexuality soon everyone will be trying it. ;-)
Michael has become one of my regular clients. He is in his late 20's, married with two daughters, is a self described "blatino" with a good body and a charming smile. He loves his wife and has a very active sex life with her. He first came to me to get a 90 min "legit" massage, he was not shy or nervous, stripping nude and using a small towel for coverage. The first half hour of the massage went pretty normal, I worked on his back and his tense tired shoulders and then lower back and hips. He did get a bit of an erection and adjusted himself a bit, apologized and I assured him it was perfectly normal. He re-affirmed he was straight but he gets aroused easily, he came to me because he thought he wouldn't get so excited getting a massage as he does from a woman. I told him not to worry about it and I finished with light touches before moving down to his feet.
I work the legs one at a time from the feet up, he calmed down and was quite peaceful. He was starting to adjust for his erection again when I worked the outside lateral muscles on his legs up to his hips. As I worked the back of his right thigh he was definitely very aroused. He spoke up that maybe we needed to stop for a moment to let him cool down, I agreed and stepped back. He settled down after a few moments and said that he was OK. I went back to the back of the thigh and when I moved to the inner thigh he came. He apologized and was worried about the table and the sheet, I told him that was what laundry was for and I slipped a towel under him so he would not be lying in his cum. I went to work on the other leg and he was much better though he did start getting aroused when I worked the inner thigh again. I moved his towel so I could work on his right butt cheek and he exclaimed "oh god!" as he came again. I finished working the back of his body and asked him to turn over and changed out his towel. He did not bother with the drape this time.
I worked his chest and abs, his cock throbbing the entire time.  I worked his legs and and inner thighs his cock is dripping.  He has stopped apologizing by this time. He keeps his hands to himself and his eyes closed. Without asking, I grasp his cock and stroke it twice and he cums a third time.
Since then he has been back 4 times. He never bothered with draping again. He has discovered that he loves prostate massages, 3 fingers even. He has managed to cum three times during each session. He keeps his eyes open now and talks freely about how much he enjoys how I make him feel. He has never reached for me or my cock, but he does not withdraw if my body (or clothed cock) touches his hand.
There is still no doubt that Michael is straight and loves his wife and kids and always will. He will always have plenty of sex with women. He is an extremely sexual person who has discovered that he can get his rocks off with men as well. Will he ever learn to reciprocate? Most likely. It will just take the right person.