Responsibility

An on-line friend and fellow bodyworker from DC wanted me to share the following with my readers. - Jack

A disturbing piece of information recently came to my attention; many men assume that it is ok to play around with their masseur or body-worker because they are professional and must be disease free and would never do anything to harm them.

In the course of a professional legit massage, there is very little that can happen that would be considered “unsafe.” About the only thing that one would have to worry about is the possible transmission of topical skin issue, such as ringworm or the like. Granted, the news of the MRSA bacteria is scary but still pretty rare, those who have come to see me know that I wash my hands often and have bottles of sanitizer sitting around. One of the simplest ways to keeping clean as a client (for those fearful of MRSA) is to shower (if possible) after a session especially if it goes into sexual activities.

Anything that happens beyond the “legit” massage is a matter of personal choices. We are each responsible for our own health and well being. It would be nice to think that no one would ever purposely harm you, but when it comes right down to it, it is still up to you to keep yourself safe.

Everyone has a slightly different idea of what safe behavior is, when you are on the table, you must come with a clear idea of what safe is to you. The best thing that you can do is arm yourself with information, know what the possible diseases are and what the risk levels of different activities are. Then you can call the shots and say “oh yeah, I love that” or “Stop, I don’t do that” or “wait, do you have a condom? If not, I have one in my pants pocket.” The masseur will understand all of this, trust me. He will have had many requests in his past where he has had to say “Sorry dude, I don’t do that,” and he may end up saying that to you at some point. Again, sex of any type is not part of a massage or bodywork session and is a matter of personal choices and should not be expected of the client or the masseur. Not judging anyone on their behavior, just reminding you to take responsibility for it.

So unless you have your own personal masseur locked up in your playroom night and day waiting for you and only you, remember, what ever he is doing with you he has probably done with others.