Tuesday, August 19, 2008

It’s Happening All Over

I deal with married men who like to have sex with other man on a daily basis. It is just a part of my life these days.

I just got a call from a female friend of mine. Actually she is a friend of a friend, someone that I probably do not have a lot in common with. She is however fascinated by my willingness to discuss anything sexual and with my extensive knowledge of all sorts sexual things from BDSM to Swinging to WS to Bisexuality to what have you. What can I tell you, sex fascinates me.

Anyway, once we caught up on pleasantries and the little gossip that we have in common, she starts telling me why she is really calling. She has had her second lesbian experience. Not exactly what you expect to hear from a very pretty married mother of two. I have only met her husband once and then extremely briefly since he is incredibly homo-phobic, not my word, but her’s. She believes it is because he can’t accept his own latent homosexuality, apparently he had a weird experience in High School with one of his teachers who sucked his dick once (while this never happened to me, apparently it did happen repeated at my high school while I was there and for years afterward). Anyway, they have a rather unique relationship, at least I thought they did, but perhaps this really is the norm.

A few years ago, the husband whom we will start calling Mike for purposes of this tale, had a randy experience at his high school reunion, a blow job in the parking lot from the girl that got away. He felt terribly guilty and told his wife whom we will start calling Patty. She was angry, not because of what he’d done, after all blow jobs are some people’s way of saying hello, no Patty was angry because he told her. You see, this made it something that she had to deal with. If he had kept his big mouth shut and since this was a one time thing, life would have gone on “normally,” but with knowledge comes consequences. Her solution was to inform him that she would have an affair and they would be even, he would not get to know who or when, only that someday she would tell him that she had gotten even.

I would have assumed that Patty was the kind of girl who would have been satisfied with driving her husband crazy and never actually act on the threat. She is smart, pretty, successful and in the prime of her life with nothing to prove. She did however have an affair with a long lost flame, for quite a while. It was hot, sexy and fun. They were both married with no desire to end their relationships so it was safe. She only called it off when the long lost flame starting getting “attached” and wanting more. Patty was furious that he had to ruin a good thing.

So anyway, Patty and Mike are better and decide to have a couple of kids. Patty tells Mike that she has always been a little curious about a “same sex” thing. Being a red blooded “straight” American male, he thinks this sounds hot.

They decide to go to a club together and Patty sees a girl that trips her trigger and they start making out on the dance floor. Mike gets a bit uncomfortable watching so Patty takes the girl to the bathroom and “does the deed.” All of this happens before I have even met Patty, or at least gotten to know her in any personal way.

A couple of more years pass and Patty and I are talking and she is asking about homosexuality, her husband, etc. and I explain about the sliding scale where some people are only interested in same sex to the other end where a person is only interested in opposite sex relationships and that most people are somewhere in the middle and where they are can even change on a day to day basis. Well, this got her quite excited. We talk about a lot of the choices that the local area has as far as clubs and venues for meeting like minded people for everything from swinging, bisexuality, to some good old fashion S and M.

A few months pass and I meet up for drinks with Patty again. This is when she tells me about Mike and Patty’s best friends, a couple around their same age that they hang with. While their relationship has been pretty normal, Patty says that she and Rose will occasionally play little silly games in front of their respective hubbies, like lifting their shirts and rubbing their boobs together. I laugh imagining two straight men pulling their shorts down and rubbing their penis together, I mean it would just never happen, right? Of course they do like to pat each other asses, and bump chests and wrestle, hmmm. Anyway, Rose and her husband invite Patty and Mike over, Mike isn’t feeling well so Patty goes alone. There is a lot of drinking and a couple of their neighbors drop in and join in the drinking. So Patty and Rose are drinking and go out to the garage with one of the male neighbors and start playing around and one thing leads to another and the girls go all the way in front of the neighbor. Now, before you say, this sort of thing never happens I will argue that the first time I saw other people having sex in front of me was in college, saw it twice, both times were straight couples. I have seen people have sex several times since, but usually it was just a few gay men saying “Hello.” So at this time I thinking “Oh you silly straight people.”

Then I hear the rest of the story that blows me away. They tell their spouses. Rose runs off and tells her hubby who is apparently very cool with it and was extremely upset that he did not get to watch. Patty goes and tells Mike the whole thing including the neighbor watching and Rose’s husband reaction. Mike is not quite as optimistic as Rose’s husband, but there was little for him to say or do. She was honest. He had let her do it once before, so a precedent had been set. There were witnesses. It was with someone he knew and had seen her be “playful” with before. Everyone else had been cool with it, so if he wasn’t it would make him seem un-cool. He apparently is not the kind of guy who would put his foot down and say this is unacceptable. So there you have it, Patty has set up a situation where she is apparently free to no strings attached lesbian sex. Who knows, maybe this will get Mike over his fears and try some man on man sex again.

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