No Orgasm, Thank You!

Not all of my clients want a “Happy Ending” or in my case, “Happy Middle.” I have a number of very legit clients who come to me for just a normal Swedish/Deep Tissue massage. I like to think that most of my clients would come see me even if I didn’t do sensual work, though I may be dreaming on that front.
There is also another group that see me occasionally, those who want sensual massage with no orgasm. Their reasons could be many and varied: they don’t feel they are cheating if they have no orgasm (really), they save their orgasms for their partner, they enjoy the building of sexual energy and want to keep it high, they view edging as a fetish, they are someone’s slave and it what their master wishes, they are exploring non orgasm sex, etc., I have actually heard all of these reasons, and others don’t share their reasons.
These clients make note taking on my part imperative. Case in point, last week I had a returning client and the note I had on my spread sheet simply said “Does not want Orgasm.” So I was giving a sensual massage with anal work, prostate work and other sensual touching while he was on his stomach. When he turned over I worked my way down to his crotch and very lightly and honorably stroked his cock once and moved on. The poor man freaked out on me and got very upset that I touched his penis. Apparently everything else was fine and he liked having the raging hard-on but did not want his penis touched, ever. This was the fault of both of us, he should have made his rules clear and I should have taken better notes. He didn’t want his penis touched on the previous visit either and I had not made that note.
The other day I had a new client the other day, a gorgeous Italian man, who had asked in advance for a very therapeutic massage. Once he arrived he said he did not need a towel for covering himself as he was very open minded. By this time, I know when I hear a phrase like “I am very open minded” that he wants a therapeutic and sensual massage. I decide that I will focus on the therapeutic aspect as much as possible. He is a beautiful man with a very nice ass with the perfect amount of body hair and a lovely color to his skin… so I really needed to focus on the therapeutic touch.
He was definitely a groaner and enjoyed my touch. He occasionally made contact with my leg when I was standing close to the table. I behaved and did not massage his prostate or even his ass lips. When he turned over he was obviously aroused and even asked for a Kleenex to wipe up some of the pre-cum. He asks me if I would be comfortable nude. I go ahead and undress and allow the massage to go into the sensual side. I lovingly stroke his body and start paying attention to his genitals and anal area. He asks me to take it easy with his penis as he is very close. “I don’t want to cum, it will ruin it” he says. “I love the anticipation.” He did enjoy touching me as much as I would allow him and asked for full body contact both on his front side and then again when our time was just about out on his back side. He thanks me repeatedly saying that I was the best massage experience he had found since coming to the States. He tells me about his wife and the troubles they have, how he has always enjoyed the touch of men and women, how repressed America is, how he misses the European values, and how he hopes to see me again is a couple of weeks. No tip. Just saying, nice guy, very attractive, but I remember the fact that there was not tip. I know, Europeans don’t tip. Anyway, all of this goes into short hand in my notes. The clothed to nude aspect that I did, the amount of ass play he seems to like, no ejaculation, the full body contact, his looks, age, no tip, the amount of time we went over, etc. Hopefully, if he does return in a couple of weeks, I will be able to give him better what he wants without going overboard, after all there was no tip ;-).