If you are thinking of a life as an erotic bodyworker, there are things to consider. Number one is what kind of sex drive do you have? If it is not really high, this may not be the place for you.
The problem is the erection. It is expected. Even if you remained clothed, if the massage is taking a sensual bent, the receiver will often feel your crotch to see if you are excited. While I suppose with proper planning you could fake this, but nothing beats a real honest to goodness erection. I personally know a couple of guys who rely on “little blue pills” to help them along. I am fortunate enough to never have had to go this route. Not that there haven’t been some close calls.
Case in point, I suffer from allergies, so on occasion I get really bad sinus headaches. Trying to get an erection with a bad headache can be really tough; however, a lot of anti-histamines can leave you feeling spacey, tired, and unable to get it up. This means I have to figure out which is going to be worse, a headache or the sinus medication.
Then there are days when I may have had a really good night with my partner the night before and I am just tired and wore out. Fortunately I really love sex and can bounce back pretty fast.
I also have DVD porn. Yes, that’s right, DVD porn. I don’t watch it while I am giving a massage, but if I know I have a sensual massage coming up, I will watch some porn before the client arrives. This is good to get me in a “randy” mood and can “fluff” up my penis before I have to disrobe. Probably more than you needed to know but this is a confessions blog.
When I was receiving a sensual massage the other day, I would occasionally watch the masseur and notice that his gaze was often off in the distance. I assume he was either letting his mind wander or fantasizing (I chose to believe option three which is that he was trying to prevent a kink in his neck). I on the other hand will focus on the body part that I am working on. That means that when I am working your butt so hard, I am focusing on your butt and perhaps even fantasizing about it. What I would like to do to that butt if I did that sort of thing to my clients. I can find a lot of parts of the body attractive when I focus on them. A shoulder for example can be very erotic to me as I work it with my hands. The small of the back, the foot, the curve of a calf, the meatiness of a thigh, the hairiness of a forearm, the muscles of a chest, the softness of the stomach, and of course the penis, balls, and anus go with out saying. All of these body parts, when I focus my attention can definitely help me with an erection.
Of course more than anything else is the personality and energy of the client. If my client has a warm and sharing personality, it comes through in their voice, their touch and the energy exchange that happens between us. My erection will come and go depending on whether I am doing some deep tissue work to relieve a stress knot or if tenderly stroking the perineum. This is true for the client as well. I have noticed that if I am turned on while stroking a calf muscle, the client usually also gets erect. Conversely, if a client really gets a woody from having their foot rubbed, often I will get erect. I had a client the other day who really loved Deep Pressure work. He got very excited as I really dug into his shoulders to work out his stress. The harder I worked the harder he got, and so did I. This is extremely unusual since I am so deeply focused into working the knots in the muscle that I almost never get erect then. For many clients I won’t even disrobe until I am finished with the entire back, since it just demands so much focus.
I also find that the differences in what men do to their bodies will excite me. Personally I shave my balls and my face but some men will go completely hairless. I would never do that, but it can be exciting on the right person. Others have obviously never even considered clipping a hair on their body and are almost invisible under a heavy coat of fur. This too can be quite exciting. Piercings and tattoos are also fascinating. Again, not for my body, but on the right guy a well placed tattoo or body piercing is very erotic.
So have there been times would I could just not get it up? Well, yes. Once I had a client just after I had sex and I could not get it back up again, this is the main reason I do not ejaculate with clients. I have lost the war with allergies. In this case, I try to explain to my client that I have had to take some anti-histamines and they have left me a bit limp, so if it OK with them, I will stay dressed but I can still please you. Most of the time that has been OK but not always, there are those men who really want that erection, it means a lot to them that their bodyworker can get a hard from working on them. I understand this, I do.
I also never do more than 3 clients in a day. If they all book 90 minutes, that is 4.5 hours of almost constant erection, every day. Now you know why some guys take a little blue pill.
In short, if you don’t already need to ejaculate every day, if you can’t find random body parts erotic or have a very fertile imagination, if you can’t keep an erection for hours on end, then this may not be the job for you.
- Jack
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