Yes, I make my living doing massage with men and about 50% of the time I include sensual work. Sometimes, I let them play with me as well. Most people in my profession do. So here is a little reality check for clients.
If you are going to a masseur who plays with you during the massage, he probably does it with at least 50% of his clients, probably does it at least once a day or more. You are not the special one. No matter how special he makes you feel (that is part of his job). You need to be OK with that. Each will have their own limits, some hate kissing, some will not cum with their clients, some will always remain clothed, some do not like mutual touch. He may have different limits with different clients, most are human and have likes and dislikes and you may not be his type at all, most will do as much as they can but everyone has there limits.
Here is one thing that is true for almost all of them. We do what we do for money. We may like our jobs, some more than others, but it is a job. Most will never date a client, this will cost us said client. Most will not have outside hook-ups for sex with their clients, this is another way to loose a paying client. If you think that you are different than the others we deal with, you may well be, but we can’t take that chance. It amazes me how often I get asked to go on a date, even after I have mentioned my partner. I am also constantly asked to have random hook-ups with my clients. I explain my rules, the why’s and the wherefore’s and still, they say it will be different with them.
Clients have done computer checks to find out if I have any sex ads out there. I have clients who have compared notes with other clients of mine to find out what I have done with them during our sessions. When I discover that a client is that obsessed, I will drop them as a client, usually with an explanation.
Just because a bodyworker gets an erection while working, does not mean that he is really turned by you. Again, this is a part of the job. They may have taken a little blue pill, watched a lot of porn before you arrived and may be thinking about doing it with Wolverine. Here is a good rule of thumb, if the bodyworker is far more attractive than you, he is probably thinking about someone else. Do not assume he wants to have sex with you. Sorry to ruin the fantasy.
Here is another little reality check; I don’t mind chatting with you during our session as long as the focus stays on you. I will answer the occasional questions about my private life, but it is my private life and what I share is up to me. Also, when we talk, it should be on the clock, if you come in and talk to me for 15 minutes before the session starts, it should come off your time… if it doesn’t you should tip well. The same goes for after your session is over, don’t expect to hang out for a half an hour or more after your session is over, my time is worth something, I don’t wish to be rude but you got to go. To take this one step further, I really don’t need to receive numerous emails, phone messages, texts, etc. telling me about how your life is going. I understand that you view me as your friend, and it’s not that you are not a nice person, but you are my client. Even though we may have discussed your sexual life and your various relationships in the course of a session, it was within the context of the session, I am not a 24 hour emotional therapist. I am happy that you feel so comfortable with me, but again, remember that we have a client / bodywork therapist relationship where I get paid for my time. I may be able to help you and listen to your issues, but save them for when we are together.
Oh, kissing on the cheek is usually fine, full open mouth kissing may not be so. To many men, this is way more intimate than touching each other's dicks or a prostate massage.
Thank you for listening and treat your therapist well.
2 comments:
This is excellent information, and being a long-term massage client, I can verify that you speak clearly and honestly and I do think all massage clients need to be aware of all the things you pointed out. I just returned from 24 days in South India, and had 19 massages (2 a day at an Ayurvedic spa) plus various resorts and with private masseurs recommended by my driver. I've read that Western clients have caused most Indian masseurs to begin requiring that their clients wear loincloths, and I found that to be the case. Many of the times I refused to wear one and was prepared to walk away, so the masseur gave in and allowed the massage to proceed with me totally naked. I think they were for the most part in for a real surprise to learn that I was truly there for a massage and not sex, and that my periodic erections were natural and I did not want them "acted on" (I did not need them acted on is actually more true). I had some excellent massages and the whole experience of South India Spas and Resorts was fantastic.
Sounds like an amazing trip! How lucky you are to be able to receive so many massages! Attitudes about massage change with each region of our country and through out the world. One of the most amazing massages I had was in Paris by masseur who was also a professional dancer. He used his entire body in the massage doing things that would lose him his liscence in the US.
It is true that in the US, our society is far more repressed and as a result men are looking for "release" more than people from other countries. Most Europeans I have worked on have a very liberal "if it happens, it happens, but I want a good massage" attitude.
Thank you for your note and again, congratulations on having a wonderful life experience! - Jack
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